At times, each person is faced with rude attitude, insults or trivial rudeness. Today I will talk about how to get out of these situations with head held high, without pushing myself into a depressive state. And most importantly - I will tell you about my method to avoid such situations.
How to respond to an insult? Very often, we cannot find the right words to respond to the abuser. At that moment, like this "character" for the word in his pocket does not fit. And we earn a headache, increased excitability and even deterioration in general health.
The content of the article:
If loved ones are insulted
Insults at work
How to reply to a stranger
Psychologist's comment
I have never been a lover of conflicts and have always tried to protect myself from this to the maximum. It got to the point that, due to boorish attitude, it was necessary to change the work, which, in general, suited me. After quarreling, I didn’t sleep at night, tossing and turning from side to side and trying to find an answer that would be worthy. But, as it should be understood, I did not find such a thing.
Remember what our mothers taught us as a child: "if you are offended, do not react, turn away and leave." In fact, this method is very effective, but what if there is no opportunity to leave? Let us examine the examples of offenses in various life situations.
What should be the reaction to an insult from people close to us?
A couple of days ago a friend came to visit me and, sobbing, told the story of how her sister had offended her.
For several years in a row, they have rented an apartment together. And every month they save money for rent in a casket. So, on the day of payment, the older sister recalculated the deferred funds and found that there was not enough of a certain amount. After she accused my girlfriend that it was she who did not fully contribute her share. And later she remembered that she herself took the missing amount from there and forgot to return it.
What do you think my girlfriend did? Right. She came to me in order to cry. What did she do wrong? She was silent!
Never be silent if you are offended by people close to you. Do not forget to take a short time out to calm down. And then tell us about what is happening in your soul, and discuss the situation.
A good, constructive, and, most importantly, not an emotional conversation is exactly the way I spoke about at the beginning!
What should be the reaction to an insult from colleagues?
First, do not forget about the chain of command. If you are offended by your boss, then you need to listen in silence and in no case should you argue.
The former boss taught me to use one very effective phrase, "I understood you, I heard you." For the most part, this simple expression can put an end to any conflict that begins. After that, you should use the "smoke break" and consider whether there was a rational link in what was said?
Secondly, if you are frankly rude, remember, your mother found you not in cabbage! In a calm tone, say that you understand the complexity of the situation, but this does not give a reason to insult you.
Psychologists advise that if you are offended by someone whom you cannot answer, imagine him naked.
Important! It is impossible to laugh, only a slight smile is allowed. So use this method only if you can control your emotions.
What should be the reaction to an insult from strangers?
The decision suggests itself, you need to be calm and indifferent to the quarrel. Very often, we are faced with rudeness from completely strangers to us. They screamed at you in public transport, scolded me in a shop or got nasty in the street? Smile and calmly move on.
Seven basic rules of reaction to an insult:
- Take as a basis the wise statement of a moderately handsome man with a propeller: - "Calm, only calm."
- Meet the insults with a smile on your lips.
- Make your imagination work and imagine the abuser in ridiculous situations.
- Never rude in response. Remember! The abuser is not worth your attention.
- Never let us understand that you are hooked by the words of your opponent.
- Do not take it on your account.
- If you do not know what to say, to stop the growing quarrel, it is better to keep silent.
The promised way to avoid insults at all
Thoughts are material, because each new day, start with a positive. Smile, because life is beautiful.
If you are on the wrong foot, have a good laugh before leaving your cozy nest. Read jokes or look humorous miniature. But never leave the house in a bad mood.
Offenders usually bypass those who are constantly in a good mood, because such people simply do not react to rudeness. Having tried another time, the man-cad will leave you alone. He or she will simply understand that his taunts have no effect on you.
Alina, Moscow
