Statistics of female changes varies depending on geographic data, age of respondents, such as adultery (one-time or permanent). And this is not counting such factors as lies in the answers. According to different sources, in 40-70% of families, wives change spouses or have done so in the past. And although the gap between the indicators is large, even its minimum number makes you wonder and unwittingly look at your faithful. So how do you know if your wife cheats?
Signs that a wife is cheating on her husband
Picky looks
She begins to find fault with her appearance. This is how suddenly, without an objective reason. To the questions of why she decided to dye her hair and exchange jeans for dresses, gets angry or answers something unintelligible. Usually the scammers begin:
- buy sexy translucent underwear, sweaters with a deep neckline, short shorts / skirts;
- wear heels when they go somewhere without a spouse, although they used to prefer other shoes;
- Careful hygiene, often remember about shaving legs and intimate areas;
- take a shower / bath not only according to the usual daily “ritual”, but also before going somewhere;
- apply a “grand” makeup, manicure, use perfume, cream more than before;
- to deal with figure flaws - to train, go on diets, go to salons, although earlier there was “no opportunity / time / energy”.
In general, she begins to behave as in the first years of dating with her husband. She is trying to impress again, but most likely she is no longer a spouse. Not his, anyway.
Indifference to the assessment of the husband
On the street - she is a goddess, any fees - this is the search and elimination of cons. However, at home she stops caring for herself as before. She doesn't care if she attracts a husband. Bathrobes, strange and sometimes frightening masks, hair curlers - the husband becomes the witness of the reverse side of beauty.
The wife now does not seek to charm, tempt the faithful, she does not care how he reacts to her. Any compliments and criticism pass by her ears without touching the treacherous strings of a windy soul.
Frequent absence
She disappears. The time that the wife spends with her husband, is clearly becoming a tendency to reduce. And she can explain it in different ways.
Damming at work / school
Chef sadist, the end of the working quarter, tender, colleague / classmate, who asked to replace or not willing to help in a joint project, an untimely session, “tails”. The list is huge.
Meet in the evening? Not worth it. To spend “to work on Saturday”? Nah Come, help with business? Absolutely not.
She will ask or even demand not to come to her place of work / study. Will be motivated by the need for freedom, trust, will put forward an argument like “Girls will laugh”, “What are you like with a little one?”. And maybe submit a lie in a beautiful wrapper “I don’t want you to strain / you are so tired / it’s so cold, you get sick more”.
Girlfriends
Surely she has a girlfriend, but lately she somehow too often visited them. Or my wife remembered her classmates, classmates, and colleagues from her former job and decided to see everyone at once.
Asking her friends about her faithful, where she used to wear her up to 3 nights, is often a waste of time. Obviously, they will hide her "hobby". Or, often, they will not be in the know either. Because Lida / Katya / Olya really came to visit, but left at 21:00. But where she was all the rest of the time - even the FSB will not calculate.
Another situation is her “new friend”, with whom she is not particularly in a hurry to acquaint her husband. Needless to say that it may not exist at all? Or, perhaps, by “friend” will be meant someone with no friendly intentions.
New hobby
Yoga, dance, cooking classes, art workshops, literary circles, which she had not even mentioned before. True, she goes to them somehow irregularly or too often, the advertisement / website does not show, about the place where everything happens, it is unclear.
She doesn’t want to show what she has learned - shy, probably. What did you do in the classroom does not immediately remember. However, after a couple of weeks or months, this problem disappears - a lie becomes a habit and becomes not so difficult.
Battery sat
She constantly, even during non-working hours, turned off the phone, although this was not the case before. Hit parade of excuses:
- the battery is dead, I forgot to charge the house;
- there was an urgent unexpected meeting, could not include;
- the phone is constantly buggy, probably broken;
- forgot to turn on after work;
- I did not notice how I left the phone at home.
Still possible options are “offended”, “you call too often”, “tired of SMS from the operator”, “wanted to be alone”. When used once, they are often true. But with regular repetition ... It is not difficult to guess.
Access restriction to gadgets
Her laptop and especially a smartphone is a restricted area for her husband. With barbed wires, angry, grinning dogs and the same kind of wardens. When approaching the enemy (husband) to the designated area immediately turns on the siren. Usually it sounds like “Don't touch!” On the highest notes. The interception rate increases to the “cheetah” mode.
The spouse is talking now in another room and in a muffled voice. All gadgets are password protected and always with her.
Changes in sex
Exactly only one thing - as it will not be before. There are several scenarios:
- the wife became more passionate in bed, she often has a playful mood, she no longer “has a headache” (especially when she comes back from somewhere);
- the spouse suddenly began experimenting, asking her husband for something new, in which she was surprisingly good;
- she is cold, constantly not in the mood, pushes the spouse, if he shows the slightest affection.
Sometimes one state goes to another.
Ignoring spouse
She no longer notices her husband. He ate, slept well, went to work, was upset about something - his wife does not see this or reacts somehow sluggishly. A few more will take:
- ceases to cook, clean;
- does not praise, does not call affectionate nicknames;
- stops listening to spouse stories;
- all the time making plans without the participation of her husband;
- often "hovers in the clouds";
- goes to bed before.
Nevertheless, it can combine this feature with an amazing contrast with the amazing ability.
Irritability
Her husband annoys her. She finds fault with every little thing, screams, sores, condemns his qualities and actions, even if she liked them before. Any errors of his faithful inflates to the size of a prehistoric mammoth. May make fun or snap at his friends.
Her criticism is often unfounded, but cruel. Of course, he does not speak about the reasons for such changes, only he is even more angry. Sometimes it deliberately provokes quarrels in the intervals between “I don't notice you” regimes.
Strange gifts
She has presents, and with enviable regularity. Who gave? Yes, anyone: a friend, grateful customers, responsive colleagues, subordinates, a passer-by, “found”. Most often it is:
- Underwear;
- bijouterie;
- flowers;
- perfumery.
Sweets and soft toys are also not excluded. If she is not a doctor, a junior teacher, or a nanny, then things are bad. Although these professions can play a cruel joke. My favorite teacher, to whom the kids and their parents always give bouquets - this is so convenient. Not a lover at all, no.
The stock of her money increases dramatically. She herself buys new things. But not for their money and not even for the finances of her husband.
It is fair to say that these signs rarely appear alone. More often, they are provided with a whole package of services and relatively abruptly, unexpectedly. Therefore, if a beloved woman showed only one or two “symptoms of infidelity,” it is better to look for other explanations of her variability.
Why she “works on two fronts”
If it does change, then a natural question arises. “Why are you still with me?”.
At first glance, it seems logical to move away from a partner if he suddenly stopped arranging, and someone “better” appeared on the horizon. Parted - and you can do anything. However, in fact, women still give birth to lovers, without leaving the family. And some, it seems, do not want to change this situation at all. Why can a girl choose this path:
- spouse and lover complement each other. A typical example: a good husband, caring, sweet, but in a cavalier on the side there is such a passion that his legs give way. And you do not want to give up the first, and the second beckons;
- There are small children in the family. She was tired of her husband, she loves another, but worries about the child, his psyche and how painfully he can react to the parents' divorce;
- material dependence. She is afraid that she will be left with nothing, because the spouse is the main earner of the family. In this case, the lover, as a rule, is a typical Alfonso or is “in search of himself”, without being able to provide a pair;
- fear of public opinion. It is easier for her to hide, to keep a heavy burden of secrets, than to admit to the world that she has an imperfect marriage. Parents will not understand, girlfriends will be strange to squint, neighbors - to discuss violently;
- backup option, or low self-esteem. She is not confident in herself. Meets with two, in which case at least someone stayed nearby. Her biggest fear is being alone.
More rare causes are the fear of a husband (he will kill if he finds out), pity for him (he treats me well), revenge (I’ll get a lover, I’ll think again).
Why is female infidelity worse than male
This is not a prejudice, but a well-founded fact. Exceptions can come across, but they only confirm the rule.
Etienne Rey put it best on this subject: “By changing, a woman gets much more pleasure. For a man, this is a minor episode. Her adultery always expresses vengeance, passion, or sin. ”
This explains why the male one-time adultery more. Ladies prefer long-term relationships, get used to lovers more, delay novels longer, thereby increasing the number of betrayals, even with one man.
Treason is a heavy blow. However, constant uncertainty, uncertainty, helplessness, fear of betrayal are not the best companions. The signs from this article will tell you exactly how to find out if your wife is cheating. Having determined for certain whether the spouse has someone on the side, it will be possible to think about the situation, find a way out, and save yourself from the torment. To forgive, to change or to break relations is already a purely individual matter.
