Bad character makes being in the company of a person uncomfortable, uncomfortable. There is anxiety and tension next to him. He does not like people, he treats them arrogantly, obsequiously. Practically never makes compromises, can without any reason change the opinion, behavior, decision. Stubborn, likes to dominate, while not taking responsibility. After talking with such a person fatigue and inner emptiness are felt. There are other signs by which you can get to know people with a complex temper.
Causes of bad character
Each of the needs listed below is not in itself bad. But in a hyperbolized form, it leaves a negative imprint on the character.
The need to have a strong partner nearby
A person refuses to take responsibility, seeks to shift it onto other people's shoulders. For this, he chooses a husband, wife, parents, colleagues, friends. At first, the “assistant” may not understand that he is being used, while he will support, help, take responsibility, a manipulator with a bad temper will try on the role of the victim. This will be expressed in the following scenarios:
- I can't find a job, that's why I'm not looking;
- everyone around me does not understand, therefore I will clash with everyone;
- I do not know how to cook (clean, earn money, etc.), so do it for me.
The need to dominate others
It is expressed in the need to dominate all, control the actions of others. A person seeks to subordinate not only people, but also situations, therefore he always strives to take everything in his hands. He will do everything himself, since he does not trust others, he will double-check everything. Afraid of everything that can not take control. Uncertainty is his greatest discomfort. Spontaneity is not inherent in him. For weak people feel contempt.
The need to use and manipulate others
A person with a difficult temper may perceive others as a means of achieving his own goals. The problems of the others are not interesting to him, if he is denied help or does not agree with him, he takes it with hostility, sometimes he does not understand sincerely why he is refused to indulge. He has the art of manipulation. In the case of non-receipt of benefits considers the time spent with the person spent in vain.
Need for continuous approval
A person needs to approve his actions, it is important to please everyone. If someone remains dissatisfied with him, he will feel uncomfortable. Praise is more important than gain. A person can act to his own detriment just to hear pleasant words in his address. He plays the role of savior, he is often manipulated, but he refuses to admit it, considering that he is needed and he does a good deed. But if the praise is not received, first the person turns into a victim, starting to feel sorry for himself, and then to the prosecutor, making claims.
The reason for this behavior lies in low self-esteem. From hostility in their part can fall into depression. Prone to repress feelings, often live as others want, without understanding their own desires.
Need for self-admiration, narcissism
Such people do not like anyone but themselves. They create a certain fictional image in their head, according to which they are perfect. These people are narcissistic, wear a mask, for which there is nothing significant. Self-esteem is overstated. Daffodils admire themselves and constantly exalt their actions, love to show off, exaggerate their importance. They are egocentrics, the world should revolve around them, if you disagree with them, you can immediately fall into the category of enemies.
The need to be the best
The person is in a constant desire to be better than others. He tries to be flawless in everything from small things to big things. This is the image of the headman, who studies best of all, tries to please all teachers to be praised, and at the same time diminishes the merits of others, so that they look brighter in their background. Often it is not about real achievements, but about fictional or bloated.
The main fear is defeat. Even the smallest loss is perceived painfully. Most often, these people are workaholics who use work to polish their perfection. They absolutely do not accept criticism, it knocks them out of a rut. They are awakened by revenge, the desire to humiliate others, just to return the leadership.
Need for prestige
Such people are dependent on how they look in the eyes of others. They strive to look successful; this is not always true. Snobbery is inherent in them. They are fans of brands, such people will spend the last money on a new model of iPhone and at the same time will eat a little doshirak. They communicate only with the "elect", who are considered important to underscore the status. To interlocutors whose status is lower than them, they are treated with a high. Often suffer self-addiction, addicted to social networks.
The need to be "invisible"
These people avoid life, are content with little. Any changes for them are related to leaving the comfort zone. They do not believe that they can improve something in their lives. Self-doubt is so developed that a person cannot even recognize that he has the resources for development, but he is simply afraid to fulfill his desires. On the one hand, with them calmly, they do not stick out their "I". But such a person will not go into society, he will slow down the development of a friend or the second half, stubbornly refuses any innovations and it is difficult to convince him.
Types of individuals with a heavy character
Bad character can be divided into several types.
Aggressive
Main features:
- hostile attitude;
- tendency to conflict;
- manifestation of aggression;
- increased demands.
Man, fanning conflicts. Tries to control everything around. He says it all straight, he believes that his rightness must be universally recognized. He sees the goal and sees no obstacles, he is ready to go over the heads, if necessary. Control and power are what he values most.
Exploiting
Main features:
- obsession;
- constant criticism;
- the urge to crush the rest.
It is believed that everyone should indulge him. His needs and desires are higher than others. He openly manipulates people, benefiting from dating, communication. They are different from the aggressive type in that they are more plastic, they think flexibly, they play on other people's weaknesses. An intriguer, likes to keep back, keep in the dark, uncertainty always turns in his favor.
Avoiding
Main features:
- avoids everything from responsibility to conflict;
- is secretive;
- does not trust anyone.
A person lives in armor, does not let anyone near him, keeps a distance in communication. Always suspicious, does not trust even close people, waiting for a dirty trick from everything and everyone. Sometimes cynical and aggressive, especially if someone tries to cross his personal boundaries. Relying on him is difficult, since it is impossible to say what is on the mind of such a person.
In its pure form, types are extremely rare, because different bad traits can manifest themselves in people. The concept of bad character is also subjective. For example, if a person does not act as one would like another, his temper may be called complex. It is necessary to understand that the character becomes difficult as a result of education or accumulated experience.
