We all understand that self-confident people achieve more in life, they say "insolence is the second happiness." However, not everyone can boast an iron faith in their own strength. To develop the necessary qualities and to learn how to be proud of yourself will help tips that reveal the secrethow to increase self-confidence.
Self-confidence, the first step - "I - well done."
We often blame ourselves for something done or not done. They ate an extra cake, did not wash the dishes again, regularly wake up your morning jogging, again did not register with a doctor ... All this significantly affects self-esteem. There is always someone to scold us, but praise is much less common, so it is important to make it a rule to praise yourself. Every day there will definitely be an event for which we can say to ourselves, “Phew, done, I am a good fellow.”
Self-confident look inside.
Make a list of your greatest strengths and attractive traits. Do not stop until you reach at least the twentieth point. Fix everything: neat, I love animals, responsive, sociable, instantly I think and solve any mathematical problems, I can hear Chopin from Beethoven by ear, I draw / sing / dance / orientate well, I drink and I don’t drink, etc. Re-read the list from time to time and add something that was not immediately noticed. You can be absolutely sure that your strengths will not fail. And if Napoleon didn’t make a cake the first time it didn’t work out, tell yourself "but I’m cooking borsch krutetski!"
Increase self-confidence by dropping the "weight from the shoulders."
Throw away the oppression of public opinion. You can not sit in a minibus with a thousand rubles, you can not exchange a bill in the store without a purchase, you can not ask for a seat on the bus or ask a stranger to add twenty rubles for a chocolate bar. All these stereotypes should have nothing to do with you! Try to go to the store and ask to break a hundred rubles into two fifty dollars. Or, politely ask the next in line customer to drop you two "rubles" missing. If you are refused, then you lose nothing, and if you are successful you will find yourself in the black.
"Light is my mirror, say ..."
Every morning, start with a positive. Before you leave the house, look at your reflection in the mirror and say "I am the most charming and attractive, beautiful and intelligent, today will be my day"! Tune in to win and believe in luck, then the day will surely give you a pleasant surprise, whether it is a bonus to salary, a favorite salad in the dining room, or just the right bus.
"Scene is calling"
Speak publicly. Let your audience be three colleagues from the department or girlfriend in a cafe. Do not be afraid to express yourself by helping with training or sharing your skills and knowledge at conferences and thematic evenings. Write poems - read them in a literary club. You play the guitar - perform your favorite songs at the next meeting with friends. Prepare well - write a recipe in the thematic section of the forum and attach photos for clarity. Demonstration of your strengths will bring you the approval of others and inner freedom.
We become self-confident despite the "Price of Error".
Often doubts gnaw us with a vengeance, when at stake the decision is something weighty and important to us. We are afraid to act because we are afraid to commit the wrong act. The fear of error shatters the foundation of confidence. It is important to understand that the consequences are not as global as we think, and most of them can be survived. Take a taxi or take a bus to catch a meeting with a client in time? Accept an invitation from a competing company and leave or stay at your current job? Give the child to this school or that? Tell your friend who calls with a sale, buy you a jersey of 44 or 46 size?
Scroll the situation in your head if the worst fears come true. For example, "I will fail in the exam, I will get to retake, but I will still stay at university and all my relatives will stay alive and healthy" or "I will be brought more or less clothes, I will have to change clothes, I may lose money and time, but nothing really terrible happened, "or maybe" I was late for a meeting with a client, he would terminate the contract, the boss would scold me, but nothing worse would happen. " Simulate bad situations ad infinitum; ultimately, you will see that the maximum that the wrong decision threatens you with is a slight physical inconvenience or a piece of mental comfort. Knowing the price of your mistake, you can make decisions easier and be more confident in yourself.
Practice every day, write down your victories and defeats, analyze the results and improve your self-confidence. Soon you will see that the word “no” has become easier for you, and decision making does not seem to be a problem or a headache. Starting to believe in yourself, you begin to live for yourself.
