Sometimes, meeting or chatting with a young man, you realize that you are wasting your time in vain - you don’t like it and never will like it. They annoy some trifles: they don’t walk like that, they don’t speak that way, they don’t look that way, they don’t breathe that way, or they don’t write ... The main thing you feel is that the boy doesn’t fit you, you don’t see you together in the future, you don’t want to be with him to communicate.
But at the same time, the young man has wonderful spiritual qualities and behaves immaculately. It is noticeable that he likes you, and he falls in love more and more.
There comes a time when you realize that further it is impossible so: if you delay with explanation, the gap will be very painful. But, at the same time, you lack the courage or arrogance to offend a good person.
How to leave, so as not to hurt the guy with his confession?
Sincerity
The best way is to tell the truth. Explain that you like him, with him well and calmly, but you can’t command your heart and you cannot love. One must be patient, tactful, but firm: not to make concessions and not to give hope. Perhaps the young man will persuade you to wait, give him a chance to show himself - do not agree, because there is no way back. A guy can get angry or outright angry, but you shouldn’t be offended by the attacks: the man is driven by emotions. Keep a low profile and friendly, but remain adamant.
It is better to part in a place where you will not be disturbed, but not where you met or had romantic dates.
Ignoring
However, there is a category of guys who do not perceive refusal: they consider it coquetry and do not believe that they are really trying to turn them off. In this case, you can ignore the pesky fan. Namely:
- do not answer phone calls and messages;
- to pretend that a person is always busy and somewhere rushing;
- do not accept gifts;
- not agree to dating;
- Do not introduce him to your friends and family.
Sooner or later, the young man will get tired of knocking on the wall of indifference and will find a more suitable object for expressing sympathy.
Letter
A tactful way to show that there can be no relationship - write a letter to a guy. Long and sincere. It is better to give it in person. In the letter you will be able to clearly and clearly state the reasons for the reluctance of further meetings, no one will interrupt and persuade you.
List the best qualities of a young man, thank you for the conversation and wish him to see you soon with your girlfriend. Such contactless separation will allow you both to "save face" and minimize negative emotions.
Make a copy of the letter, you may need it more than once.
Network parting
A young man with whom you are communicating on a dating site or on a social network page can become very annoying and at some point this communication will stop bringing you pleasure. If you haven’t had time to tell all the secrets about yourself, then report that you already have a very jealous guy, and he is now checking the correspondence.
Write that you can not respond to messages anymore, and if they appear again, you will have to add the intrusive interlocutor to the "black list" or press the ignore button. As an option, try to "throw" a guy with incomprehensible images or links to strange sites, do it actively and every day: the interlocutor will decide that you are not in yourself and retreat yourself.
Unworthy
If you are very sorry for the guy, and you want to leave without touching his vanity one iota, show yourself in the worst light. This method will require you to work, because you always want to look better in the eyes of others. But to let the guy let you go on his own initiative, you need to try:
- argue with him on every occasion, even trivial;
- lead any conversation to money, hinting at a consumer attitude;
- do not share his hobbies;
- do not take the initiative, answer in monosyllables.
The time will come when the young man will get tired of misunderstanding and decide that you are too different with him to continue the relationship.
Podstava
Get rid of an annoying fan by playing on male polygamy. You introduce a guy with a very pretty girlfriend, willing to play along. The girl tries to interest the young man and invites him on a date. And if you accidentally "find out" about their meeting and accuse the guy of treason. Thus, the former, himself reluctantly, becomes the cause of a break in relations and he has no one to be offended with.
Inadequate behavior
Normal men are frightened by women who can "explode" without any apparent reason. Therefore, start quarrels and scandals, swords of "thunder and lightning" on the most insignificant reasons, make violent scenes and showdowns from scratch until the guy in horror runs away from you, dropping sneakers. You can also tell a young man that, as it turned out, sexually you are more attracted to women, and men from now on interest you only as friends.
Discussing the problem of parting without offense, psychologists advise:
- not to blame for breaking a young man;
- treat the conversation with all seriousness: do not flirt, do not give hope for the resumption of meetings;
- do not start a new relationship until you have completed the previous ones.
When parting, remember that the next time you yourself may be in the status of being thrown. Therefore, try to leave without hurting the once close person.
