Often people can hear the words: "I live like a fog, every day - an exact copy of the previous one" or "I can not understand why I live. Where to go next? ”. Familiar? Surely. Someone is looking for the meaning of life, someone is interested in the formula of life, but one thing is clear: the universal formula is not inscribed on birch bark or in ancient papyri.
You can re-read hundreds of books, listen to dozens of other people's opinions and view a bunch of clips online. Yes, everyone has his own thoughts, his own philosophy, but one conclusion: the formula of life must be folded SA-MO-MOU. And the components also have to look for yourself. Let's try to find at least the direction of the search for meaning. Then you need to work yourself.
When we think about the meaning of life
Connoisseurs of human nature in one voice say: a person asks himself the question about the meaning of his existence, not when he wants to philosophize or wise up. This question is asked by people who do not live. Or those who have lost a live emotional connection with the world. Happy people just live and get high. The unhappy are fighting over the formula of happiness.
If you ask yourself this question, the first thing you need to ask yourself: "Why I suddenly began to look for the answer to this question. Why now?"It is important at this stage not to go to the abstract level of infinite philosophizing, but to try to find a simple human answer. Why try? Because the cunning brain will immediately try to slip the prepared, but the wrong answer. It's easier. So easy.
Conclusion. The search for the answer to the question "Why do I live? " begin where there is an internal conflict, a state of depression or dissatisfaction with its existence.
Straight talk with yourself is hard. At this stage, just it is necessary to connect a psychotherapist.
Psychotherapist help
But what about the wisdom of parents? Colleagues tips? Wise books? We are more accustomed to relying on the advice of relatives, acquaintances. Or we prefer to endlessly absorb information in the network. A trip to a psychologist is almost equal to a trip to a venereologist. Because it is a shame.
Friends start advising books on self-development, overcoming crises, or sharing their own stories. But all this does not work, because:
- Other people's stories are other people's stories. You need to find your solution instead of spending time listening to other people's stories.
- With literature, you need to be able to work. While we are under stress, we notice and see only what we are used to seeing. As a result, useful information passes by.
- Many meanings come from parents. Children themselves often develop parental stereotypes. If you find yourself in a difficult situation, the conclusion is the same: everything that parents said is not working.
Reading inspiring literature is also worth deferring.. Athletes know that if something turns out well for you, a large number of spectators improve the result, but if something fails, the result deteriorates noticeably. At the stage of acute dissatisfaction, inspiring literature leads to even greater depression. It's like parting with a guy and endlessly watching movies about happy love.
A psychotherapist is a neutral person. He will not smear snot from the story of the boss-tyrant. And he will not say "forget it, everything will be decided by itself." The psychologist listened and worked hundreds of similar stories. He knows how to put the question so that you yourself can find the answer. Will not offer a ready-made solution and will not give a recipe. Listen and help.
Conclusion. Where you need a plaster, plantain will not help. You need to contact a professional who is able to "fix" the brain.
Psychotherapy - takes from six months to several years. But during this time, too, can do something
Meaningful life and energy of excitement
At one time, Leo Tolstoy investigated the question of finding the meaning of life. Among the many quotations there is this: "The conviction that life makes sense is given to a person as a reward for a meaningful life." That is, you first need to live meaningfully and after that understand - what is the meaning of this.
Sometimes people think that they are not worthy of happiness, until they construct in their heads a clear and understandable formula for life. Waiting for this is completely useless. In fact, the only working strategy is from practice. Life is meaningless - a proven way to shake yourself, to challenge yourself. But to do this not alone with himself, but to promise something to a friend, spouse, colleague, for example. The decision may be rash, as if taken from the ceiling, but doable. For example, run a marathon before the end of the year or leave the work you dislike. And ask your listener to monitor the fulfillment of this promise.
Conclusion. When you live for a long time, it’s hard to start living meaningful life from day one. First you need to shake yourself, remember forgotten desires, excitement and get energy for the next steps.
But not everything is so rosy and easy, sometimes you have to suffer
The man himself decides when it hurts
The meaning of life and pain are inextricably linked with each other. On the one hand, pain helps to realize the meaning of life. On the other - it is the meaning that gives a person the strength to survive the ordeals. After all, the saying is true that God gives us only those tests that we can overcome.
It is believed that people who have dedicated themselves to the church know for sure: the purpose of their existence is to serve God. And it seems that they realized this meaning from birth. This is not entirely true. In his book, The Hallowed Saints, Archimandrite Tikhon describes the difficult road to monasticism and the fate of novices and monks. He talks about the torment, the torment, the doubts that he and his associates had to go through before accepting the tonsure. To take the veil - one decision is not enough. This honor must be earned.
On the other hand meaning helps to withstand or even survive in difficult situations. Psychologist Victor Frankl devoted his whole life to this question. For the first time he connected the pain and meaning of life while in a concentration camp. He asked himself: what helps people survive in such inhuman conditions? It turned out - the desire to see children and relatives, to observe the growth of the planted vine or to visit the sea. That was their meaning. Therefore, they had something to survive.
Conclusion. Pain and meaning are closely related to each other. Pain is part of the growth. In turn, the meaning helps endure any pain.
The formula of life is an individual request and requires an individual response and path. But instead of endlessly complaining, understand that in some situations it is worth taking the initiative. Pull yourself together and do it - find your formula for life.
