We understand our feelings: how to understand that you like a girl or a guy?

Sometimes it is difficult to understand your feelings. Common sense comes to grips with the heart, and intuition stubbornly silent.

So how to understand how strong affection is for a person?

Is the arisen attraction true sympathy and love, or just friendly warmth and disposition?

How to understand if you like a guy or not?

Gradually, communication with the young man crowds out all other aspects of social life, spending time with him brings pleasure, and talking after breaking up continues by telephone and correspondence.

At such a moment, the girl faces a choice: to translate relationships into a romantic plane, or remain good friends?

Signs that indicate romantic feelings for a guy:

Embarrassment. Thoughts are confused and intertwined, the voice trembles, and on its cheeks continually flush flushes. Even if the girl is not peculiar shyness, she is afraid to look stupid or blurt out too much.
All self-confidence dissolves, and pre-prepared phrases literally disappear from the head.
Thoughts about him. Every now and then you scroll through the frames of your walks, remember his words and jokes. Involuntarily, you start wondering how he would appreciate that, or another action / deed / thing (a great public appearance, a new hairstyle, your witty answer, etc.). And after each conversation, you scroll through all the phrases in your head several times.

Talk about it. Without even noticing it, you constantly start to mention it in conversations with close people. You tell your mom, sisters and girlfriends about how he helped you, what he said and did. Share emotions about spending time together and your communication. At the same time, the surrounding people start smiling knowingly, suspecting that you have fallen in love.
You are interested in learning more about him. If a girl communicates with a guy in order to be able to express “everything that has become painful” or to get male advice, there can be no talk of love.
But if you really want to know what he is interested in, how he passed the exams and how he spent the day, then the guy really likes.
You always want to keep in touch with him / be around. You constantly miss his presence. The desire to spend time in his company overshadows all other matters and interests. You willingly change plans for a joint walk or a telephone conversation.

You calmly treat his weaknesses and weaknesses. You are not annoyed by the negative moments in his behavior. They are perceived rather as its features, rather than repulsive minuses. The mess in the guy's room, his hobby for computer games and the habit of nail biting cause a smile rather than disgust.
Tactile contact with him gives incredible emotions. A simple handshake, a hug when meeting and a light touch to the hair cause trembling throughout the body.
Sometimes it becomes difficult to control yourself, overriding the desire to hug him as much as possible.
Feel it at all levels. You understand that he is excited, ill, anxious with some thoughts or happy. You know that now he is hungry and you notice that he pulls down his T-shirt only when he wants to say something important. A guy may not even show his true feelings. But this is not necessary, because you yourself understand everything perfectly.

How do you know if you like a guy? Recommendations in the video:

How not to be mistaken in their findings?

What if you do not like? Tips for girls:

Do not rush. The test of time is the most reliable test of the senses. If this is a passing hobby or an attempt to stifle loneliness, the interest in the guy will disappear after a while (or at the first difficulties). But true sympathy only grows stronger with time, turning into love.
Imagine he left. Close your eyes and imagine for a moment that he will no longer be around. He moved to another city, went on a long trip, or simply interrupted communication. What do you feel? Despair or slight disappointment?
Can you, in theory, continue to live a calm and measured life without him, without suffering at the same time?
Look for cons. Pink glasses can play a bad joke with a girl. She stubbornly fails to notice the negative traits of the character in the object of her sympathies. But after a while, this "love veil" will fall and the person will show himself in all its glory. Do not wait for this moment. It is better to study it thoroughly right now. He is a rude saleswoman in the store? And in general, rudeness is not alien to him? Or maybe he can not make decisions on their own, and depend on the assessment of reputable friends? Or is he inclined to fall into depression, to look at the world with pessimism? Observe his behavior and thinking strategy, and then decide for yourself how harmless his habits are.

Surrender for a while. Turn off the phone and cancel appointments with him under any pretext. The desire to be near can be a simple habit. If in a few days without talking to a nice guy you do business and cares do not force out thoughts about him, it means that you have strong feelings.
Make a joint "appearance". Chatting alone cannot reveal a person completely. Invite him on a joint walk with friends or in a crowded place. How does he behave with strangers?
What emotions do you experience? Pride or awkwardness for your companion?

How to determine that you like a girl?

Like a girl? Or is it just episodic interest? Should I start to care for her and move on to the stage of a serious relationship? Signs:

She is out of competition. Meeting beautiful girls, you understand that they cannot overshadow the very one around which your thoughts have been constantly turning around lately. And even if unfamiliar beauties begin to flirt, their coquetry no longer causes a violent response.
You strive to see her under any pretext. It does not matter the reason and circumstances of the meeting, how difficult it is for you to get to it and how many cases you have to cancel. The most important thing is the time spent in her society.
Do you want to take care of her. There is a feeling of anxiety for the girl and a desire to protect her from all problems.
If you realize that she will be returning home on a dark alley, adrenaline begins to play in the blood and the desire to immediately be there.
You are afraid to talk to her. You can carry on conversations with other girls brilliantly, but once you are in her company, you are literally speechless. Thoughts go astray, words stick in my throat, and my tongue gets tangled. Instead of deft complements, there is unintelligible babbling, and after this nonsense, I want to fall underground. This is a sure sign of sincere feelings for the girl.

You are jealous of her. She just talks to a colleague, acquaintance, former classmate or classmate. Harmless conversation combined with polite smiles. But somewhere in the depths of the soul a fluttering indignation, a desire to interrupt the conversation and take her away from the stronger sex by the hand, is growing. Jealousy manifests itself spontaneously and defies logic.
You can't take your eyes off her. And the look is directed at all to bends of a body in the fitting dress. Your eyes are drawn to the familiar dimples on the cheeks, freckles, small scar on the arm and other trifles that you have already managed to learn well and firmly associate with her image.
Your mood depends on her mood. If you notice her sad eyes from afar, the mood immediately deteriorates.
But her smile and ringing laughter cause a rush of inexplicable joy.

How not to confuse feelings?

What if you do not like? How not to be mistaken in their findings? Tips for guys:

Men love eyes. If a girl is just a beautiful picture for you, try to dispel the illusion. Get a girl by surprise when she is not ready for your unexpected appearance. Do hearts beat more often when you see her without makeup, styling and beautiful outfit? Or did all the charm dissipate like smoke?
Imagine your family life with her.. Do you see her in the role of the wife and mother of your children? If the only thing that arises in the head is a picture of hot hugs and kisses, most likely it is just a physical attraction.
Spend time with her when she is in a bad mood.. Make a company for the girl when she is in a state of despondency, irritation or depression.
If you do not have deep feelings for her, in a few minutes you will want to hide and run away from this furious fury or desperate crybaby.
Are you ready to dedicate it to your private life? It's about getting to know your family, friends, and colleagues. About entrusting her own secrets and sharing her hobbies with her. If the interest in her is opposed to your private life, and you are not ready to devote a girl to this life, most likely you are not on the way.