A husband cheats and lies: how to make him confess to treason?

Treason is always unpleasant for both marriage partners.

Is it worth it to bring a suspect in an intrigue to clean water and how to behave if he went to the left and suffers from a sense of guilt?

There are no universal answers: in each family, spouses must decide for themselves how their relationship will develop after the fall of one of them. How to force a husband or wife to admit his treason?

Why any thoughts of infidelity?

If you are not hysterical nature, accustomed to inflating "Drosophila elephants", then the thought of the infidelity of the second half may induce unusual real nuances in her behavior.

The most common "deviations":

Longing close access to all information in the phone from the rest of the family. Any attempt to touch the device leads to a flash of aggression. Moreover, the degree of its manifestation is clearly not proportional to the "crime". Usually this behavior is observed in adolescents - a normal phenomenon for the period of growing up, and in adults who have something to hide.
If the faithful or spouse does not work in the secret service, then you can reasonably suspect that a subject appeared in the telephone contact log threatening your family idyll.
Permanent telephone calls away from your ears. Even in the daytime, when there is no need to protect your or your children’s peace.
Frequent overtime at work. And in the days when the half intends to be at home much later than usual, she is particularly picky about the impeccability of her wardrobe and carefully preens in front of the mirror. On your timid comments about the desire to more often spend the evening together, rude.
Saying someone else's name in relation to you, as well as uncharacteristic for your relationship nicknames such as "hare", "lapoule", etc.
Downsizing previously familiar talk of souls, joint attacks in the cinema, cafes, museums or trips. Rejection of numerous proposals on your part - as a cover, there can be complaints about heavy workload, fatigue, etc. You just need to clearly realize that in such a situation there can be excuses because of real rumors, and your suspicions of betrayal are made-up.
Presence persistent aroma of someone else's perfume. The excuse in the style of "standing next to the subway" or "a colleague went too far with the spirits" can be taken as justified once or twice. And if the alien spirit is firmly ingrained in the things of your half, then this is already an unpleasant signal.
Someone else's intimate character, as well as the trace of lipstick, does not appear from nowhere and does not throw in ill-wishers.
Although, if the person who has encroached on your half, has decided to declare his existence to you like this, then it is possible.

Effective advice of a psychologist

Family is your personal fortress. Even if you suspect half of the campaign on the campaigns to the left, then it’s not necessary to talk about the problems to friends and relatives.

All that they can generate in response: sympathy, pity, a lot of negativity in the direction of the suspect, advice of various kinds - you do not need it, unless you are going to revel in the role of the unfortunate victim.

Better listen to the recommendations of a psychologist.

Please note that by “breaking out” the confession, you may be faced with the fact the need to plunder the relationship with half. If this outcome is undesirable for you, do not begin interrogation.

Independently analyze the reasons for the current problem. And, if you can, correct the situation in their favor.

It is possible that a man does not have home conditions for the disclosure of its potentialand the mistress is not only a comforter of the flesh, but also of the spirit. You will always have time to wave the “I know everything” transport.

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How to make a traitor to confess in the spree?

Husband or boyfriend cheating, but not recognized? If husband already thinking about divorce, then, probably, the recognition will be made after the first "I know about treason." Denial of misconduct will be only if he:

he was not going to leave the family, because he does not consider all trips to the left to be a serious offense;
he is afraid to leave you for a number of reasons (he still values the relationship either from his own mercantile interests);
pathological liar.

You corner him, if a:

Present a photo where he meets with the pass is clearly not for business negotiations. For example, a romantic coffee or club is not the place to decide the fate of the next transaction.
You can show SMS communication with a friend on the side.
Demonstrate screenshots of photos with a lady and love correspondence on the social network.
Personally, appear in front of a couple when she decides to retire.

Of course, to collect such facts will have to retrain a detective or hire him.

And if for the latter this is paid work, then for you this kind of activity may seem humiliating. Is it worth it to do - you decide.

How to bring his wife to talk about her betrayal?

Women are more emotional than men, therefore many can admit even without presenting the real facts, if a:

You just ask her about it.
Arrange a romantic dinner and you will be extremely caring, to shine with sincere love - even career women hardened by office troubles rarely stand the test if they have a lover.
Arrange a walk in the countryside with a breathtakingly beautiful landscape. Unity with nature will make a woman suffer because of the remorse of conscience from the offense and the spouse will want to throw the stone from the soul, even with the threat of an immediate break in relations.

Do I have to admit to treason? Points for and against":

Do I have to confess myself?

There is no universal answer in such circumstances. Yes, morality require honest relationships with partners. But real life is far from the standard rules and you need to show wisdom even after the accomplished treason so that one mistake does not become fatal for you and your environment.

If adultery was an accident, a one-time consequence of busting with alcohol, then perhaps you should not give up and admit.

Cheating your soul mate is very bad, but fooling a family with a wonderful relationship is stupid - misdemeanor can forever make you strangers. And you are not going to repeat?

Definitely yes, if both of you are well-balanced people, whose relationships have simply become obsolete, and there is no point in continuing to live together.

But recognition must be made in the most correct form.

In other cases, first understand for yourself what will give you a frank conversation on this topic.

Perhaps if you are extremely honest with yourself, deep down you dream to annoy your partner for his imaginary or real wrongdoing. But is betrayal a logical way to clarify the relationship between two mature personalities?

Is it difficult for you to carry this burden alone, have your conscience bitten you? Well, this is quite a normal price for what you have done - have the courage not to ruin the lives of others.

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How to do it right?

How to admit treason to your spouse or girlfriend?

Without insulting her female dignity. Even if you went to adultery deliberately, avenging something.
Without the presence of outsiders. In this situation, those are all but you two. The fact of participating in an unpleasant conversation of others reduces the chances that a woman once finds the reasons for your forgiveness.
Moral prepare for an avalanche of impartial statements in your direction.

In some cases, a small performance with falling to its knees, luring forgiveness and terrible oaths can help save marriage.

In the end, half deserved to be in a royal role, when it is entirely for her to decide to "execute" you or "pardon".

A prerequisite: there should be no witnesses to the clarification of the relationship - everything that happens is entirely your own business.

How can a woman confess a love affair?

Soberly assessing the risks. Alas, a man can lose his nerves, and considering that the majority of husbands are physically stronger than women, the consequences can be not only humiliating for both, but also life-threatening.
Not humiliating husband or boyfriend. This is an easily satisfiable condition, if you had a good relationship, and communication on the side - an occasional affair under the influence of circumstances.
Taking care that the conversation was especially between you.

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When should you keep everything secret?

When can not be recognized in the fact of treason?

You know that admitting guilt will literally kill a partner.
Half unbalanced person and can mess things up nonsense.
Understand that an angry partner can be a threat to your life or your children, loved ones.
You are half expecting the birth of the baby or he was recently born. Disgusting news may affect the health of the mother and unborn child. If he is already born, then her milk may disappear - leave a confession for later, if in time you decide to open up.
In a period when a partner is experiencing a strong emotional stress. The reason for the latter may not necessarily be some kind of tragedy. The nervous system is experiencing overload and when a person is experiencing a very important pleasant event. In any case, in such circumstances, with your confession in your own fall into sin, you will strongly resemble an insidious and unprincipled enemy who was looking for the best moment to deliver a sneaky stab in the back. Or are you a ruthless sadist who loves to mock others?
In some cases, for example, when in a family a woman has no right to vote at all in a family, it is more prudent to keep silent about her fall. It is better to break off the relationship and retire, literally and figuratively, to a safe distance than to be mentioned as a victim in the crime reports.
Of course, betrayal is a misdemeanor, but who in this life can boast of absolutely perfect behavior?

If you think, then in treason one spouse both are often to blame. The exception is the clinical cases where one of the partners before the marriage carefully concealed his love for the intrigues and did not stop the spree after the formalization of the relationship.

Therefore, if there is no possibility to independently figure out how you came to such a situation, consult a psychologist. He will help to survive what happened and, perhaps, will show the way to save the family.

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