How to survive separation from children

Love for your own children is a completely natural feeling. However, for some parents, this feeling is so strong that any separation from the child, even the shortest, is tolerated quite painfully. They are so hard to endure this time that they are not only nervous themselves, but also irritate children with constant calls, instructions, and so on.

What can be advised in this situation to parents?

1. Think of the fact that parental love, if it takes an excessive form, can easily harm not only you, but also your children. The fact that you miss them and worry, is quite normal. However, do not allow the possibility of your feelings turning into an obsession.
2. Try to calm yourself down with arguments. Now is the age of high technology, and you can easily connect with your children. For this there are mobile phones, social networks and so on. The main thing - do not begin to abuse it. Do not restrict the freedom of your children. It is necessary only to let them know that if they have any problems, they can immediately contact you. But to pester your children with daily instructions and questions, whether everything is in order, is not worth it.
3. Do not forget that you yourself wanted the children to study at a university in another city, or go on holiday. And, of course, for this they had to leave home for some time in another city. So it's better than they would have stayed at home with you, thus depriving themselves of the prospects in life. After all, the love of parents should not be selfish or blind.
4. Try to think about the good. After all, your children, when they begin to live without your constant care, will become much more independent and gain life experience. All this is very useful to them in later life.
5. Of course, when your children left, you probably had more free time. And at such times, because you do not have a hobby, you still yearn for them. So just try to find yourself some hobby. Start leaving your home more often by attending various events, concerts, exhibitions. Start meeting friends more often.

Of course, the first time you will be hard to experience separation from children. But if you behave correctly, then over time you will become much calmer. You will no longer call them several hundred times a day, constantly reading moralizing and instructions. Give your children a little bit of freedom, this will only benefit your relationship.

Alena, Yekaterinburg

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