Jealousy, many psychologists call the main destroyer of stable relationships. So be it. This feeling is sometimes disastrous for strong alliances, but with it you can add to the relationship of fire. How to make a girl jealous so that for a man it does not turn out to be unpleasant consequences?
5 ways to properly wake up jealousy
The first thing that men need to remember is that jealousy is mock and betrayal associated with real facts are two completely different problems. With the first you can add to the relationship of passion, and with the second you can destroy even the most solid alliances.
The task of a man is to try to awaken the first version of feeling, avoiding the facts of real treason.
This can be done in the following ways:
- you should hint to the beloved that at the university or at work with a man in the same room there are many beautiful girls, which immediately activates possessive instinct;
- a man may periodically notice the beauty of passing by girls or his acquaintances;
- joking jealousy can be awakened with the help of SMS: it is enough not to show who the message came from to make the lady feel uncomfortable;
- in social networks you can upload a picture with some beautiful girl friend that instantly awakens the desired feeling in the girl;
- You can tell your sweetheart that a man was given a compliment in a fitness club, at a party or at work.
The main rule here is not to awaken this feeling in relation to a specific rival. A man may notice that beautiful ladies work with him, without focusing on a particular person. It is also possible to weigh in compliments to the individuals passing by, without investing any personal relation in such words. Short-term jealousy towards the passerby is one thing, but a stable feeling of hostility towards a potential rival is completely different. Some girls are so jealous that once they hear the name of their rival, they don’t forget about him even after 2-3 years.
It is also important to understand in advance the purpose of your actions. Why does a man want to awaken jealousy in a partner? If he tries in this way to emphasize his popularity with the opposite sex, a way with compliments from outsiders will be suitable. They can even invent. The main thing is that the girl understands how popular and in demand is a man of the opposite sex.
Psychologists note that a sense of possessiveness can make a girl change her character, become more obedient, and begin to listen to her partner. However, they should not be abused in order not to stumble upon regular quarrels with the beloved.
Ways to awaken jealousy in the former sweetheart
Much more difficult to cause similar feelings in the girl, the relationship with which came to an end. What actions should be done here?
- Social networks will come to the rescue of a person, because with their help a man can publicly declare that he has a new passion through joint photos.
- It should appear in the company of mutual friends with her lover, or just tell them about what a wonderful new partner. Rumors will surely overtake the former sweetheart, filling it with jealousy.
- If the couple had some kind of joint dream, for example, to visit Paris together, it is worth doing it with a new passion. Such a move will cause jealousy in a girl, even many years after breaking up.
- If a man does not have a new partner, but he wants to arouse jealousy in the former, it is enough to tell others about his rich, free life without obligations. A hint of erratic connection sometimes worries even more than real treason.
Here it is important, again, to understand the purpose with which the man decides on such actions. If he wants to return the former, then it is better to arouse jealousy with the help of hints of erratic communication. Realizing that the man is not involved in a serious relationship, but lives to the fullest, the girl does not just get jealous, but she can think about returning.
If the goal is to annoy the former, all the above mentioned methods will do. In places where the former beloved is most often worth a visit to the company of a new passion, and you need to look perfect. In this case, the lady will begin to get angry, showing her indifference in all its glory.
Psychologists advise less often to turn to similar methods of pressure on former partners, because they prevent them from letting go of the past. As soon as a man comes to terms with the thought of parting, the need to arouse jealousy will also fade into the background.
How not to awaken a feeling
Yes, jealousy sometimes comes to the benefit of relationships, cuts a new spark from them, but this does not mean at all that it is necessary to wake up this dormant volcano by all available means. Here are some examples of how not to awaken a feeling that can destroy love:
- one should never go for real treason just to awaken elementary jealousy;
- It is not recommended to celebrate the merits of another woman, while pointing out the shortcomings of her own beloved, as this will surely offend her;
- do not rely too often on the help of this feeling, as with constant games with jealousy are bad;
- You should not really flirt with other ladies on an ongoing basis, as this can harm the feelings of a rival who does not know her role in this chain of events.
Games with other people's feelings are always an adventurous idea, because you can accidentally insult or humiliate someone who does not deserve it. That is why the awakening of jealousy should occur in such a way that it does not give anyone a heartbreaking pain.
Psychologists advise to put yourself in the place of a beloved, whose man is trying to cause negative emotions, and also not to forget about the lady with whom jealousy awakens. Both girls from the games of men can be unpleasant. Therefore, it is better to activate this powerful weapon in its arsenal in the most extreme cases when other methods of resurrection of passion and fire in a relationship are not available.