Relationship with a married man like a swing.
Unbridled happiness gives way disappointment and hopelessnesslaughter is interrupted by tears.
Neglect and social censure make mistresses carefully conceal their status.
However, many women with an enviable regularity choose partners already having a family. Not to make irreparable mistakes for a woman who has decided to have a relationship with a married man will be advised by a psychologist.
Psychology, causes and possible outcome of the situation
Meeting with a married man completely devoid of stability, mysterious and unpredictable.
An appointment at any time may fail due to his family circumstances, and the publication may result in an escape from accidentally encountered acquaintances.
It is never known what awaits tomorrow, and whether there is a continuation of these strange relationships.
She is free, he has a family
If you do not take into account men with low moral values, popularly called "womanmakers" in the people, men's treason are rarely groundless.
A happy married man is unlikely to intrigue on the side.
But when problems mature in the family, men tend to run away from their solutions and find an outlet in the person of their mistress.
- The desire of new sensations, lack of emotion. Family life often kills feelings. Quarrels and misunderstandings exacerbate the situation.
- Sexual dissatisfaction - a purely physiological reason for which a man seeks relationships on the side.
- Desire to assert themselves. With age, men thirst for adventure, the desire to prove that it is still worth something. As the wife has long been looking at him without admiration, the man begins to look for a source of inspiration on the side.
Women fall into the network of married men by virtue of their views on life or by coincidence.
- Men's lie. A man famously lies that he is not married, does not wear a wedding ring, behaves like an absolutely free person. The woman does not realize that he has a family, wife, children. When the deception is revealed, bitter disappointment ensues. In most cases, wounded pride does not allow a woman to continue the relationship. The final quick break love affair - the best that a woman can do in this situation.
- Selfish interests. Married men appear to be successful and wealthy to many women. They have achieved a lot in life, stand firmly on their feet, experienced and serious. Mercantile interests play an important role in relations with married.
- Belief in one's own exclusivity. A man can not hide his marital status. He “honestly” tells the woman that he and his wife no longer live for a long time, and if they do, then only for the sake of the children. Insurmountable circumstances prevent them from putting a stamp in the passport about their divorce. This is perhaps the most common lie, which, however, many women fall.
Considering themselves the exception to the rule, they sincerely believe that with them, in spite of statistics, everything will be different. Already with them a man will definitely remain forever. And then they themselves remain with the nose.
- Low self-esteem. Women with low self-esteem explain their connection with married men by the fact that there are few decent men in their environment, and it is better to share a man with his wife than to be lonely. Because of self-doubt and complexes, such women believe that no one needs them anymore. They are not able to complete the demeaning relationship and in everything go on about the lovers. If a woman does not take herself in hand in time, she can devote her whole life to empty expectation.
- Unwillingness to enter into a serious relationship. For a woman who does not seek to marry, but loneliness, a relationship with a family man is quite a suitable model. The partner is full and well-groomed, does not need to create an ideal life for him, comes at a convenient time without depriving a woman of freedom. A woman gets everything she wants from a relationship. Until he finds a desire to start a family.
Loving a free woman with a married man in most cases pass on one scenario.
At the beginning of a relationship, a woman has iridescent illusions and does not pay attention to the status of a chosen one. She feels lightness, sees heightened attention on his part, rejoices in surprises. She is disturbed by a sense of superiority over the wife of her beau.
Over time, the euphoria fades away, falling in love psychological dependence. A man is not in a hurry to make his choice in her favor, it angers and upsets a woman. Eaten by jealousy, she feels a whole storm of feelings.
In most cases, a relationship with a married man is doomed. Husbands rarely leave the family.
Decide to bond with a married man - take your secondary role in his life. Mistress must always be in the shade.
She cannot appear with her chosen one at events, is forced to remain alone on holidays and at night, and is doomed to hide the very fact of having a relationship. Most often, it ends up parting and regrets about wasting time.
He is married, she is married
In the case when both lovers are bound by bonds of official marriage, their relationship is distinguished by certain nuances.
Relationship of married lovers - a way to distract from everyday differences and shake things off from the routine of family life.
Married women are not so often connected. Usually they are pushed for good reasons.
- Dissatisfaction with family life. A woman subconsciously looks for a man with whom she will be psychologically comfortable. Tensions with her husband, rudeness, lack of attention, lack of understanding push the woman to look for a gentle, affectionate and understanding lover.
- Revenge for treason. After learning about the adventures of her husband, some women seek to repay him with the same coin. As a rule, this undertaking does not lead to anything good.
- Thrill search, marriage reanimation. A love affair on the side for some women is a way to overcome a family crisis, avoid divorce, dilute fresh family life.
The novel of married lovers rarely develops into something more. According to statistical studies, only 1% of couples are ready to divorce and start all over again with a new partner.
In most cases, this relationship lasts as long as while they are comfortable to bothand then fade away.
Psychology tips
Relationship with married men devoid of joy.
A mistress who seeks to lead her husband out of the family should ask herself whether she can unconditionally trust her chosen one, taking the place of his wife.
It is difficult to trust a man who has deceived at least one woman. Even harder live all your life in jealousy and doubt.
It is better to immediately think about what everything can lead to, and if the intended burden is beyond the strength to give it up before it is too late.
How to build a relationship with a married right?
Firstly you can not fully focus on relationships. In the life of a woman there must be things that are not related to a man. You can not stop self-development.
With her head plunging into dependence on relationships, looking for meetings at any cost, the woman completely loses her self-esteem, her interest in work, meetings with friends disappears. The inner destruction of the personality begins.
We can not allow full financial dependence on men, even if in a relationship he is a sponsor.
No need to believe the empty promises of a partner. His actions will all say for him. It happens that love connects two people when one of them is already in a relationship.
In such a situation, a truly falling in love man is ready to start a new life with his chosen one.
He will find words to explain everything to his wife and will not pull with the decision of such a serious matter.
If a man promises to leave his wife "sometime afterwards," it is worth considering why his words differ from the deed.
The main advice to every woman: you need to love and respect yourself, to live your full life, and not become an attachment to a man, dissolving in it. Healthy egoism is the key to a happy relationship.
How to save them?
A woman seeking to maintain a relationship with a married man should be careful. Any pressure will have the opposite effect. A man comes to his mistress to take a break from problems, to relax, he is looking for new emotions and ease.
If a woman in turn adds new difficulties to him, the value of communication is lost. With such a mistress is easier to leave.
That's why a very bad idea - wanting push the man to leave the family, call his wife, send SMS at night, deliberately leave traces of his presence in his life.
Quarrels, scandals and ultimatums will not lead a man to divorce, but they will come up with the idea that life with a mistress is not sugar. A criticism of his wife and children are able to completely alienate the lover.
Worst way make a man leave the family - “accidentally” get pregnant from him, hoping to bind him to a child.
Such an ill-considered step can lead to the opposite - a sharp rupture of relations on a male initiative.
And all the responsibility will remain a woman.
A woman partner's opinion should be respected, do not put pressure on him or try to manipulate. All this is useless and will cause only a reaction of rejection.
We must not impose ourselves, but create the conditions for the man to decide to stay.
How to say about the break?
If a woman realizes that the format of relations with a married man does not suit her, she should initiate a serious conversation.
Mark your position and report the gap should be calm, without reproach and hysterics. Do not try to prick your partner, hurt him or prove something.
Should clearly identify deadlines and possible concrete actions partner. If he does not act decisive steps, persuasions and promises begin, then the decision to break is the only right thing and you shouldn’t regret it.
How to finish a long relationship?
To get out of the prevailing love triangle you need to have determination and strength of mind.
Only by understanding the value of your own happiness, you get break psychological dependence from a hopeless relationship.
When parting you do not need to scroll through all the happy moments.
If a woman remembers the feelings and emotions that she experienced when a man returned to the family, and she was left alone, chances are that the regrets will go away.
- Having decided to part, you need to negate all communication: meetings, phone calls, conversations in social networks.
- To restore emotional calm should get rid of everything that reminds about unsuccessful relationships: from gift lover, joint photos.
It is not necessary to return things personally, it will provoke new emotions. It is better to gather strength and throw everything away.
- The most effective cure for suffering is employment. You can immerse yourself in your work, go on a journey, meet with loved ones more often, find your favorite hobby. Everything that will help to occupy thoughts and not stay alone in long, dreary evenings will do.
- Do not give up on new acquaintances. After all, having decided to break the empty relationship, the woman took the first step towards a happy family and mutual feelings. Maybe a happy meeting is not long in coming.
Harmonious relationships can not be built on deception. A man in the status of a lover owes nothing to a woman.
He can immediately end the relationship, go to a new mistress or return to the family.
Instead of chasing after someone else’s happiness, it’s better to look around, see free men, aimed at serious long-term relationships and the creation of a family, where the woman will be in the main role and can be proud of her chosen one.
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