In the modern world, an essential part of communication between people takes place by telephone.
So, when meeting a girl you like, the guy first writes down her number.
Girls often begin to worry about how to hold a telephone conversation.
How to start a conversation?
Telephone communication significantly different from a real conversation.
We have no opportunity to see facial expressions, gestures, interlocutor's posture.
And often these signals carry more information than the words spoken. When talking on the phone, girls lose the opportunity to impress the fan with their charming smile, seductive pose, intriguing gaze.
Also, there is no opportunity to take the time to think about the information, as it can be done during the correspondence on the Internet.
On the other hand, it is during communication by telephone that it is possible to talk without distraction to your appearance and behavior. You can charm a guy with the help of voice timbre, laughter, ability to maintain a dialogue.
If the girl decided to take the initiative and call first, you need to start talking kindly with neutral greetings and standard questions: "Hello! How are you? What are you doing?… .".
According to the intonation from which answers will be received, and by the presence or absence of counter questions, one can judge presence of interest have a guy.
If he clearly demonstrates that he is not inclined to engage in dialogue, the communication should be unobtrusively ended.
But more often guys take the first step.
In this case, you just need to openly and kindly respond to the greeting, and continue the conversation on the proposed topic.
If the boy’s speech makes it clear that he is very nervous and because of this he cannot come up with a topic for conversation, should help him.
It is desirable to speak with a smile, openly and kindly. This will create the necessary relaxing atmosphere, calm down and encourage the fan.
What you can talk about: topics
Popular Topics to talk:
- Progress. All men are proud of their achievements, even the most insignificant. You can ask the guy about his success in business, the results of his work, etc. If he tells about some problems and failures, you should definitely express support and demonstrate confidence in his future success.
- Plans. Discussion of current plans can smoothly develop into a meeting appointment. For example, a guy can share his desire to visit the cinema for the weekend. In response to the remark of the girl that she had not been to the cinema for a long time, an invitation to go together for a session would quite naturally follow. In this case, the girl does not necessarily ask the guy about his plans. It is enough to talk about your intentions and give the opportunity to the interlocutor to take the initiative and make an appointment.
- Hobbies. Sports, music, computer games - you can always find a topic that will cause a lively interest in a person.
Only it is important not to depict interest where it is not, not to mislead the interlocutor because of the desire to impress him.
- Work or study. These are not the most romantic topics for discussion, but they often help to save the day. This option is suitable for couples who are in the initial stage of dating and still know little about each other. You can talk about their professional responsibilities, career achievements, plans. Just do not get involved in monotonous narration. Even about the work you can tell fun and interesting.
- Relations. This topic should be approached carefully, because not all people love to share their personal stories. If, in response to a request to tell about his ex-girlfriend and the reasons for breaking up with her, the guy starts to transfer the conversation to another topic or pauses, you should send the conversation in a different direction. Guys also often ask a girl about her latest relationship. It should be answered honestly, concisely and positively.
You should not burden the fan with too much information, let alone talk about the complexities of the past of the novel.
- Travels. The guy will be equally interested to talk about his own trips and listen to similar impressions of the girl. It will not be superfluous to share with your fan your dreams about those places that you have not yet had a chance to visit.
How to communicate?
Should communicate open, friendly, positive.
The rules for building a telephone conversation are no different from standard communication rules.
Hearing a calm and kind female voice at the other end of the wire, the man immediately realizes that the conversation will be pleasant and desirable for both parties.
Accordingly, he gains confidence and relaxes. The interviewee must feel the sincere interest of the girl.
Wherein you should not be too active and clearly show your desire to impress. Usually this behavior pushes away young people who like to conquer the object they like themselves.
Psychologists recommend stretching the lips in a smile while talking on the phone. The voice of a smiling person sounds positively in the handset and is conducive to communication.
If during a conversation there is anxiety, you should try to suppress it and calm down. Just remind yourself that the other person is on the other end of the wire and not able to see the excitement. In addition, he can survive no less than a girl.
It is not recommended to communicate by phone, being in a bad mood.
People tend to take into your account the negative state of the interlocutor, although the cause of the disorder often has nothing to do with them.
If the guy calls at the moment when the girl is in a bad mood, communication should be postponed. You can refer to employment, the inability to talk, feeling unwell, etc.
So that the guy does not think that they do not want to communicate with him and just politely refuse him, you need discuss a convenient time for the next call or promise to call back yourself.
Girls' mistakes
Standard mistakes that girls make when communicating with guys on the phone:
- Guessing games. They find it incredibly amusing to introduce a guy into difficulty with an unexpected start of a conversation: handing the phone to a girlfriend, changing the voice, convincing you to dial a number, asking you to guess the caller's identity (if you dialed the number yourself), etc.
Usually, this behavior causes irritation and misunderstanding in the representatives of the stronger sex.
A man would rather hang up than spend time finding out the reasons for the strange behavior of the interlocutor. At the same time, the impression will be badly damaged and you will have to spend time in the future to restore the image of an adequate girl. Guys do not like being embarrassed because they are afraid to appear rushed or inexperienced.
- Claims. Even the most devoted fan will think about stopping communication with a girl who has a bad temper. Guys categorically do not like it when, during a telephone conversation, girls make complaints, hang up, cry, take offense. Such behavior causes only irritation and hostility. Often, it simply confuses a man who has dialed a number in anticipation of pleasant intercourse and as a result of a scandal at the epicenter.
- Idle chatter. Perhaps this is the most common problem of all women. Even the most patient fan will tire of endless and meaningless chatter of his companion about girlfriends, clothes, horoscopes, proper nutrition, plans, etc.
If the flow of information adds to the accusation of insufficient attention and misunderstanding of the seriousness of the topic under discussion, then the conversation becomes really unbearable for the guy.
- A selection of unsuitable topics for conversation. If a guy shows a clear reluctance to discuss any issue, do not insist on your own. Simply smoothly transfer the conversation in a different direction. Also, one should not start the discussion of purely female topics that can not be of any interest to men - cosmetics, fashion, personal care, celebrity life, etc. Such conversations will induce longing for the boyfriend.
- Ignoring neglect. Often, girls are so passionate about their own experiences and thoughts that they forget to objectively evaluate the behavior of their partner. If the call is initiated by the girl, and at the other end of the wire there are often pauses and unpleasant intonations are heard, you should think. This indicates that the interlocutor does not share the emotions of the caller and does not feel the need for communication. Of course, his unwillingness to communicate may be due to poor health, problems at work or at home, and other difficulties.
But in this case, be sure to hear a proposal to talk later.
Thus, to pick up the topic for a conversation with a guy on the phone quite easy. The success of communication depends on the ability of the girl to show interest in the personality of the interlocutor and to demonstrate their positive attitude.
How to communicate with a man on the phone correctly:
