Each of us begins our journey through the complex maze of life from childhood. From the age that is filled with fairy tales, dreams, fantasies ... We all live in a world of illusions and have no fear of reality, easily interweaving the real and the fictional. We are princesses and knights, brave heroes who fight against world evil, and good fairies, awarding the magical gifts of those who deserve it.
But at one point, reality comes upon us with all its obviousness, and we understand that in this life there is so much unjust, and that we do not practically solve anything here. So how to be? Give up your dreams, everything that is dear to your heart and hunt the notorious tit!
Why can't we achieve our dream?
Life goes day after day, and sooner or later, but we get used to what is happening around us. Yes, we are resigned to the fact that we did not become an employee of the month, did not receive a red diploma, did not marry the best girl from the institute…
Somewhere in the depths of the soul, everyone continues to dream. No, not even to dream, but to dream. But if you ask any person who considers himself a loser, to make a single, most important desire, very few will be able to formulate it. And again this eternal question: why?
The thing is that only a few are able to realize what they really want. Win a million? What for? Become a beauty? What purpose? Get a prestigious job or become a fashion model? And where will this road lead? And so, fantasizing about something that seems attractive to us, we are in reality not fully aware of whether we need it or not.
The ability to formulate your own goals is a complex science. And it begins with honesty towards oneself. After all, many live in accordance with the system of values, which in the real world can already be considered obsolete.
People who are not too scrupulous, do not want to give in, in any situation, first of all, thinking about themselves are more viable. And not every dreamer is ready to reshape himself in their image and likeness. As a result, fairy tales, education and the principles that they impose on us prevent us from at least formulating our goal.
What prevents us from achieving a dream, changing your life?
Starting a new business is extremely difficult, and starting to change your life in the bud is almost impossible. Leading positions in the list of excuses are the following:
- Not enough money.
- There is no time for ... (study, going to the gym, reading, putting yourself in order, and so on).
- It's too late to change something.
- I am not like that ... (greedy, cunning, aggressive, annoying, etc.).
- If it does not work out, I will finally lose faith in myself.
As you can see, there is no self-blame here: I am supposedly a very capable person, but I lack something for complete happiness. If I were a rich bastard, and even younger, I would show you!
In fact, there are always excuses, and even if you are Bill Gates, even Warren Buffett, even Catherine Deneuve, it is your life attitudes, false moral values and self-doubt that prevent you from taking at least one step towards achieving your dreams.
Striving for a dream. From "who live well" move on to "what to do"
To make this very first step, learn from the experience of others. Perhaps you will be amazed to learn that stories like "Cinderella" occur quite rarely: no one regrets the poor submissive silent girl and does not present her with all the joys of life on the same platter.
Everything is just the opposite. So be prepared for the fact that you will be disturbed, and you will have to show not the best human qualities, at least in your understanding.
Be a little crazy?
Belief in success, at first glance, a hopeless cause is imperative. Without it, do not reach even the smallest. Yes, the smarter we are, the more often we prefer not to go up the hill, but sometimes this approach turns out to be wrong.
Forget about the fact that any result must have some reason. Just do it. The theory without practice is a complete zero, but practice without a theory may well exist. Turn off the critical perception of reality, turn on healthy pofigism and - go ahead!
At least buy a lottery ticket.
Everybody has a chance, and not one, believe me. This is especially evident when we start giving advice to our friends or discuss someone you know who could not do this and that.
So, once again: use the possibilities, do not refuse. It is better to speak at the presentation with not the most brilliant speech and deserve the assessment “does not reach the high achiever” than to go completely unnoticed. It is better to wrestle with how to give a loan taken for business development than quietly and quietly wither against the background of competitors.
Love yourself, spit on everyone.
Remember how Kid and Carlson shared nuts? Being brought up prompted the boy to give in, but in the end he turned out to be the injured party: Carlson outwitted him. And what happened in the end? Never mind! The kid somehow comforted, the friendship did not break, and Carlson received all the best, in fact, what he wanted. What is stopping you?
Simply deny people occasionally requests that you don’t want to fulfill, inform your boss that his additional task will require additional time from you, and this is a sure premium for overtime. Bargain with the sellers, ask them to warm the cold dish in the restaurant, do not disregard the rudeness ... Start small, and there will be a lot.
Parapsychologists, counselors and trainers: Do they help to achieve their dreams?
We are not only the totality of certain psychophysical characteristics that nature and heredity endowed us with. Being a civilized person, each of us is able to strangle any "gifts" in the bud: the aggressor will become an intelligent doctor, the libertine will be an innocent female supporter, and the hysterical will be a physical education teacher. So, the data from nature must be polished and honed, but not “turned back”, but only a few adjust their direction. And this is where various helpers come to our rescue.
For someone, the whole life should have a mystical background, someone believes more in friendship and love, but give someone a strictly scientific approach. the main thing - Do not give up the dream, be clear about it and take small, slow, turtle steps towards it But then - every day.
