Kindness - this is a vital concept that allows a person not only to form a positive opinion among others, but also to receive positive emotions, to find peace and inner balance.
Many feel for themselves destructive influence own anger and aggression, want to get rid of them and become kinder, but do not know how to control their negative emotions. Can you learn to be kind?
What are the causes of internal hatred?
To become kinder and calmer, first of all stands turn to the origins of negative emotions, determine the causes of anger and irritability.
They may be as follows:
- Internal conflict. A person may have internal contradictions, the result of which will be the accumulation of negative emotions. At the same time they are not necessarily able to remain hidden - any situation can become a trigger when these emotions are released. As a result, even a minor external stimulus provokes a surge in the whole flow of aggression, while such a reaction can make a person feel angry, leads to a misunderstanding in his relations with others.
- Envy. The success of others can also provoke aggression and irritability.
They arise because of the feeling that a person does not realize his own potential, dissatisfaction with his position.
- Family problems. In case of frequent conflicts with close relatives or the constant presence of unresolved family problems, it will be difficult for a person to adapt to society as well as get rid of aggression, since each situation will be considered as a reflex negative or negative to conflicts.
- Violation or drops of hormonal levels. In this case, it is very difficult for a person to understand the motive of his own aggression - after the hormonal background is restored, the situation that has provoked a conflict or a negative feeling may seem trivial. For this reason, there may be remorse of conscience and a negative assessment of their own behavior.
- Fatigue. The lack of proper rest leads to the fact that a person turns on a defensive reaction with a slight external irritant - any situation at the same time can provoke discontent or open conflict.
- Environment. Some types of people are incompatible, however there are situations when they are forced to contribute, for example, in professional activities.
Also, irritation and aggression can be an absolutely adequate response to an unfair attitude towards a person, manipulation, and consciously provoked conflict situations.
What to do?
I am very angry and aggressive: what to do? Awareness of their own increased aggression and anger is the first step to solving this problem. The desire to make a difference is the starting point for your own peace of mind.
First of all, it is necessary to establish the reason why these negative emotions arise and to try to eliminate it.
It can be either external, not dependent on the person, or have a personal character.
However, there are cases when the cause of irritability and anger is not so easy to solve, and sometimes it is simply impossible. In this case, get rid of the aggression will help personal trainings, work with your own inner world.
What is dangerous uncontrollable rage?
How does anger harm a person who is angry? Uncontrolled outbursts of anger represent serious danger for a man.
In an angry person, blood pressure increases significantly, which can trigger a heart attack, as well as rupture of blood vessels with subsequent hemorrhage.
Rage is especially dangerous for people with cardiovascular diseases.
Also danger carries in itself and hidden anger Suppressed anger can lead to coronary heart disease. It also weakens the immune system, leads to the development of depression and generally reduces the life expectancy of a person.
In addition, a person prone to aggression and irritability has problems with socialization, with its perception by society.
Consequently - inability to build good relationships with others, lack of understanding and the possibility of self-realization in society.
How to control anger: a reminder
How to win anger in yourself? Anger outbreak can be prevented by learning to control it. To do this, you can use the following memo:
- Realizing that you are in an angry state, stop, stop the conversation or your actions, even if you have to not complete the sentence.
- Take a quiet and deep breath several times, after which try to breathe smoothly and calmly, try to control your own breathing.
Remember that the emotional peak lasts about one and a half minutes, after which it declines.
- Say silent words to yourself - anger does not change anything, it will only harm you. In addition, a person who is seized with anger loses the ability to think rationally.
- If possible isolate yourself from the source of irritation - Exit the room in which the person with whom you are in conflict, become from the table, if you feel a fit of anger in correspondence at the computer.
- If this is not possible, change position - but do not fuss, do it slowly and deliberately.
- Abstract the situation. Try to look at it from the side or imagine another person instead of yourself.
- In no case do not go to a high tone - Try to speak smoothly and calmly.
- If you cannot calmly analyze the situation or continue the conversation, postpone the solution for a while. Change your occupation, do other things. Return to the problem when you find peace of mind.
You may find that your calm decision may absolutely not correspond to the one you were about to make in anger.
Anger: how to cope?
How to release anger without harm to others? Negative emotions, including aggression and anger, can accumulate. However, you can release them without harm to others:
- Take a blank sheet of paper. and write down on them all those actions or words that you were going to say or do in a situation that made you angry. Be as frank as possible. Such an activity will allow you to get rid of inner anger, despite its simplicity.
- Take any exercise. This can be a run or a long walk, strikes on a punching bag, weightlifting, fitness - physical exercise significantly reduces the level of aggression.
- Visit the extreme rides - spilled adrenaline will allow you to find peace.
- Chat with a loved one. Describe to him the situation that causes aggression in you, in full detail. A loved one can help with advice, and you get rid of the accumulated negative.
- Pay attention to outdoor activities. - traveling, hiking, swimming, fishing, hunting, mountaineering, etc.
In this way, you release your psychic energy and find peace of mind.
- Play video games or watch a movie. - it also contributes to the release of negativity.
Are there pills for irritability?
Is it possible to remove malice with medicines? In medicine, pills for anger and irritability are called sedatives means.
The principle of their action is to reduce the excitation of the central nervous system, due to which a person's emotional background stabilizes and it is easier for him to achieve peace of mind.
There are the following sedatives:
- vegetable origin - based on valerian, passionflower incarnate, motherwort, peony, St. John's wort;
- combined herbal preparations from several plants - Persen, Phytosed, Novo-Passit, Dormiplant;
- alcohol sedatives - Volokordin, Corvalol, Valasedan, Cedariston, Valocomide;
- drugs based bromine - Adonis Brom, Bromkamphor.
There are also more complex and powerful sedatives, but in order to purchase them, you need advice and a doctor's prescription.
How to deal with your aggression?
How to overcome anger?
For men
How to get rid of anger, anger, resentment and hatred within yourself? Men are more prone to aggression and anger than women.
It should be remembered that the winner from any situation is not the one who will show the maximum strength of emotions, but the one who makes the most correct, rational decision, which is possible only in a calm situation.
Determine the cause that causes anger or resentment, and try to eliminate it. Most interpersonal conflicts are resolved. diplomatic methods.
If this is not possible, try to avoid situationsthat provoke outbreaks of aggression.
It may even be necessary to change the environment or place of work - however, the psychological comfort is worth it.
How to become kinder to people and calmer? To become calmer, learn to control your own outbursts of anger - you will see that many problems are solved much better in a calm situation, and you yourself will feel much better after that.
Remember that good does not mean spinelessness, but to defend one’s own opinion is possible without anger. Help someone - especially if it does not require a lot of effort from you.
Thus, you will not only find friends who will help you in a difficult moment, but you will also feel kinder.
Laugh more, find yourself an occupation that will cause you pleasant emotions - all this will be an excellent background for relieving stress and maintaining internal balance.
Spend time on active and passive rest - only a rested person who has gained strength has a positive emotional background.
For women
How to stop being angry and irritable?
Irritable women often do not find support either in the women's or in the men's team.
This significantly affects the state of the family atmosphere.
Try hard avoid situations that annoy you. Get more rest, practice relaxation, meditation, listen to soothing music.
Ask for help, if you are not able to cope with your duties, and you must always respond with kindness in return - in this way you will build another line of conduct that will be much more acceptable to you.
How to become a kind, patient and sweet girl? Try to treat people as you would like them to behave with you.
Develop empathy - pay attention to the emotional state of the people around you, show care and attention to them if necessary.
Do not provoke conflicts - you can even demand a completely calm tone - and you will immediately notice that, remaining a sweet and polite girl in difficult situations, it is much easier to find a common language with many people and maintain your own peace of mind.
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