How to become a happy person: advice and commentary of a psychologist

No one can answer you the question of how to become happy, except yourself. After all, for everyone this concept conceals something intimate - that which they hide in the depths of their souls and are afraid to once again show others. It is unlikely that happiness can be measured in pieces or kilograms. Therefore, the dreams formulated in the form of the phrases “I want a car” or “I want to lose weight” have, fortunately, a very indirect relationship.

The content of the article:
What is happiness
How to feel happiness
Psychologist's comment

For example, can you imagine that you never have the car of your dreams? Does this mean that you will be unhappy all your life? Most likely no.

In fact, the theme of happiness is rather vague. Everyone wants to be happy, everyone goes to this. But exactly whether each of us knows where to go for your happiness? How often we, having acquired the desired, we understand: no, not in this happiness. And again we go somewhere and look for something.

Happiness can not be bought - this is so. Is this a reason to be upset or rejoice? This is not a subject, but rather the result of work on oneself, an awareness of the essence of life. Therefore, with the disappearance of any thing, happiness will not leave you; it will still be there if you have experienced this state and learned to live in harmony with yourself and the world around you, not figuring out or proving anything. Therefore, happiness is not a temporary phenomenon, but a state in which you are constantly, despite the fact that in life you occasionally have to face difficulties.

Happiness is not a living of pleasures, but one of the important indicators of your life. That it allows you to determine your condition, your assessment of your life, taking into account all the adversity. This does not mean that happiness requires more successes and achievements, and less problems. What is important is not some kind of mathematical result, because sometimes one small success is able to cover the whole bad day, week, month.

How to feel happiness?

To feel happy, try to follow a few recommendations:

Accept fate. There are things that can be changed, but there are situations that are already predetermined by someone or something. Be grateful for what is, because in most cases, the health and lives of loved ones, a roof over your head, dinner, the opportunity to embrace your loved one are not appreciated by anyone. Do not be angry that fate did not give you something, and do not envy others - everyone has their own way, and no one has it easy.
Never regret anything. Self-pity is a tremendous waste of energy. Millions of times we experience again and again what we have done, have not done, said or hidden. No need to collect situations in which you made a mistake - forgive yourself, draw conclusions and move on. This will help to become freer.
The path to happiness is the path to your true goal. With the definition of this goal, many have difficulty. It is important not to consider someone else’s goal “for company with a friend” or succumbing to fashion trends. Spend several evenings on walks in silence and reflections - feel what exactly your soul stops from - this will be your dream and your path to happiness.
Learn not to put the opinion of others above all. Most people are knowledgeable and dependent. You, most likely, also repeatedly succumbed to the attempts of others to convince you of something and changed your own opinion. Always with a healthy sarcasm, treat any advice, do not listen to someone else's criticism, attempts to pull you up in some undertaking. As a rule, people like these statements cover up their own laziness and weakness. And you - can and should try, even if you make a mistake.

So how to become happy? Work on yourself, on your perception of the world. Do not allow yourself a negative attitude, or rather, learn not to see the reasons for anger and not develop negative emotions in yourself.

Inna, Volgograd