Every situation has two sides. It would seem to be a loving and caring mother - the destination of every woman. But often hyper-care becomes the reason that the boy, growing up, does not become a real man. A mama’s boy is a type of young and not-so-young people who are so feared by women.
The content of the article:
Signs of this type of men
Relationship perspectives
Psychologist's comment
Signs of
Mom, mom and once again mom. If you have started a relationship with a mama's son, then this woman will not be able to go unnoticed by you. Constant calls, total control, non-stop requests to help in resolving issues that mom could handle on her own.
The main thing you should pay attention to in such 
situations - the reaction of men. If he is ready to leave you at any time of the day or night and rush to the other end of the city to explain how to change the settings in the phone, you can be sure that this is a sissy.
As a rule, such men are irresponsible, they cannot make a decision. This is not surprising - all my life my mother did for them. However, this concerns domestic issues. In terms of career, mothers sons are often quite successful.
They often marry late. A man over 30, who has never been married, is not necessarily a mother's son, but the combination of this factor with the other signs should alert the woman. Sometimes it happens that these men marry their mother out of spite. However, the prospects for such a marriage is minimal. Mom sooner or later “open her eyes” to her precious child and explain that his woman is completely unworthy of such a treasure that she cares for him badly and does not love at all. Mom's business! She gives all of herself to her boy was happy.
Mom will always come first, you will regularly listen to stories about what and how she does. If you are discussing a problem, the standard answer will begin with the words "Mom said."
Mama's boy son always tells her everything. Even the details of your intimate life will not be a secret for this woman. What she is sure to tell you with pride by adding a couple of caustic remarks.
Regardless of age, these men often live with moms. They do not need separate housing, they do not want to take care of themselves. Even if such a man escaped from under care, the mother most likely lives somewhere close by.
This man does not like scandals. He will avoid any sorting out of relationships, but the point here is not that he is overly peaceful. He simply does not know how to stand up for himself, this applies to any conflict situation — he, too, cannot protect from hooligans.
It is often said that the “son” is brought up in an incomplete family, only by a woman. However, this is not a fact. Firstly, the example of a father in a family may not be the best, the dominant position of a woman in this case can play a dominant role.
Secondly, even that woman who alone brings up her son can stimulate in him the development of the character traits of a real man, person. It is precisely the unwillingness of a mother to see a person in her child, the impossibility of making his own decisions in childhood become the reason for the birth of a mama's son.
What awaits you?
You should not indulge yourself in the hope that such a man will ever decide that you are better than his mother.
If you are at the very beginning of a relationship and you can still say “Stop” to yourself, it’s better to do so - you can never be alone with your man. Potential mother-in-law will always be there, she will make all the decisions, up to what time you have dinner and what kind of carpet to lay in the living room.
You will never be ideal for a mamma's son. You will also not learn how to cook, to iron the shirts flawlessly, to carefully wrap up with him food for work.
What to do?
If possible, the relationship with the sissy is best avoided. Re-educate a person who was raised from infancy according to a certain pattern is almost impossible.
If, however, you only in marriage realized who fate brought you, then it is logical that you have three options: leave everything as it is, fight for your man and try to explain that mother is not always right, or leave.
Leaving everything as it is is the worst option. In the face of your spouse's mother, you will always see a competitor who will manipulate him by any means, considering it normal that he devotes all of his time to her, and not to his own family. If you get tired of listening to claims from her side, and you express your opinion in all colors, “tying up a quarrel”, then the sissy man-son will never take your side, because the worst thing that can happen in his life is to hurt his mom.
More or less successful will be the marriage of a mother's son with an independent, held a woman who is able to provide for herself, him and, if necessary, his mother. As a rule, such women are older than their husbands, they glimpse at their whims, and for a man such a situation — when a woman indulges his desires, grooming and nurturing him — is quite common.
Another plus of women's material independence is that if you decide to leave this man, the lack of money will not be the reason why you will have to endure his antics, as well as the antics of his mother. Therefore, if you have a seed of doubt, is it worth it to be with your mama's son together, and with the work still does not add up, start by resolving this issue - insure yourself, it will not be superfluous.
Again, only a woman who can provide them can bear children from such a man. First, the husband will not be able to take responsibility for them, will not help with the upbringing.
But besides this, the woman will now devote a huge amount of time to the children, respectively, he will not be satisfied with the fact that he is not being worn with him as with a written bag. In this case, he will either return to his mother, or find a new “nanny” for himself.
The main thing that can make a woman who has decided to stay with her mama's son is to make friends with her mother-in-law. At first glance, this may seem impossible, but if you decide that your man is worth it, you need to try.
First, do not interfere with the communication of the son with the mother. Consult with her, ask for recipes of her boy's favorite dishes. If the mother-in-law gave valuable instructions about any issue, and as a result nothing good came out, exclaim in perplexity at her husband: “And my mother said that it was necessary that way ...”.
Sooner or later you will be able to convince your mother-in-law that you are her ally, and your husband that mother is not always right. However, remember that such a man will never be the head of the family. You will always pull everything on yourself and only you will have to make any decisions.
Elfira, Ufa
