For many people, children are the main meaning of life. But at the same time, not all parents know how to properly raise a child so that he becomes kind, strong, able to make friends and achieve goals. How to make your child a good person?
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What should a parent remember?
Do not change your upbringing tactics.
Psychologist's comment
Of course, in one article you cannot describe all the possible methods and methods of education, but there are several important points that every parent should remember.
Respect your baby
Many may think: how can I respect the kozyavka, which in itself still does not represent anything? This is not true. Every little person is already a person with his own special character traits and good memory, which lays the foundation for his future attitude towards people.
If your child feels that his opinion is listened to, that others respect his wishes (but without fanaticism, of course), then he will behave in the same way in the future. Usually, those who were practically not noticed in childhood become egoists. As you know, children around copy their parents. If you do not want a child to give up his hand at you in old age, begin to respect him today.
Talk to a child about loving him.
Words of love - this is a real magic power that can work wonders. It is mother's and father's caress and love that become the guiding stars for the little ones in this big unknown and sometimes frightening world.
Self-confidence is what can be raised in a child, praising him for his good deeds. Only a person with normal self-esteem will be able to set a goal and achieve it. Help your child become more confident - tell him about your love, praise him for his success.
Spend time with your child
Many circles, school, sports sections - this, of course, has a great effect on the child’s comprehensive development, but it takes almost all of his time, and after work parents usually only dream of emptying the refrigerator and going to bed. As a result, there is practically no time for communication, and then the parents, having come to their senses, are surprised at how far their children have become from them.
The matter is not at all in transitional age: if you don’t devote time to the child, he will suffer from lack of attention, he may develop complexes, but more often the child simply switches - he finds new interests or closer people. If you want to teach your child to build adequate relationships with people, do it by example. Try to use every spare minute to talk to your son or daughter. You will surely find interesting, fascinating topics for conversation!
Give your child freedom
All parents are afraid for the safety of their children, while many take care of their offspring so passionately that as a result, their 45-year-old "children" live in a father's house without their own family, normal work and purpose in life.
If the child is not given enough space for maneuvers and research, he can become a non-initiative, fearful person who does not have ambitions. Many mothers not only endow their sons and daughters with all sorts of disadvantages, but also break their own family nest, completely forgetting that their husbands need attention.
Try to give your child the freedom of choice and action, while quietly hedging it. When he learns to walk, stand by and be ready to catch him, but do not hold him up to 2 years by the hand! Nature has created such a law: people learn from their mistakes. If you exclude the opportunity to learn from your experience from the life of your baby, he will never be ready for independent living.
Stick to the selected line
You cannot forbid a child to do something today, and suddenly ban it tomorrow, because your mood has just changed. This will adversely affect his attitude towards you: having seen that you easily change your opinion, the little man will try to manipulate you in the future, trying to get his way.
If you are consistent in your bans, you will minimize family conflicts. In addition, the child will take an example from you: he will be a prudent, principled person who always adheres to his own words and keeps promises.
Raising a child is a very long, complex and multifaceted process that does not take breaks or vacations. Be prepared for the fact that it will be very difficult. The main motivator in this difficult task is the idea that all your present efforts will be justified in the future in the person of your offspring.
Only through your work can your child become a responsible, sincere, thinking, kind, purposeful person who loves and respects his parents and appreciates the education they gave him.
Bella, Ozersk
