What to do if there is a void in the soul

Once you find yourself in the middle of a scorched steppe, where everything is calm but lifeless. And nothing reminds that a blooming garden once grew here. A strange feeling, because this lifelessness is inside you. What if there is emptiness and cold in the soul? Let's see where this abyss came from and how to fill it to feel the joy of life again.

Where do black holes come from

Perhaps you yourself did not notice when and how it happened. At what point did your inner universe fail, and a frightening black hole appeared in it.
You continue to live a normal life, and people around you do not even realize that you live as if inside a black and white silent movie.

At what point is the bowl withered to the bottom? This is the first thing you need to understand for yourself, deciding to understand the problem of your inner loneliness.

Here are the most common causes of this condition:

Fatigue. Moral exhaustion from routine or eternal fuss. Imperceptibly, but slowly and surely, it contributes to the exhaustion of the spiritual forces.
Stress. The effects of stress from any loss, sudden changes in life.
Shock. Akin to stress, but still I would like to highlight separately. This is a betrayal and other similar things, after which the fragile structure does not stand up and collapses overnight.
Loss of goals. Others did not replace the realized goals (for example, after the completion of a large project), their place remained vacant.

The acute period is experienced. But now inside you hear the frightening echo of desolation.

What next?

Really what? NOTHING. Terrible word, which in our case can mean indifference, melancholy, apathy, depression. All the "charms" that can make life similar in despair to a straight line of heartbeat on the monitor. If nothing is done, things can turn out to be much more unpleasant consequences than just a lack of mood.

A person ceases not only to be interested in what is happening around, but also to take care of himself, to communicate normally with loved ones, closes. Due to desolation in the soul, and desolation in the house grows, untidiness and a mess arise. Indifference, lack of interest can alienate friends.

In order to prevent such a development, it is important to understand that the scorched grass in the spiritual vacuum is nothing but past experiences that seem to have dried out, but cover the soil of the soul very tightly, preventing the seeds from outside from reaching the fertile layer. And even the most persistent seeds can not germinate through a thick layer of withered grass.

We correct the situation: we dig up the field

What to do? The answer to the surface: empty - fill!
- Fill ... Easy to say, but hard to do. - With the already familiar indifference you object. And you will be absolutely right. But, like almost everything in the world, it is feasible, if there is a desire.
“You have forgotten, I haven't had any desires for a long time,” you will wearily continue the polemics.

No, I did not forget. That is why we will begin with desire. From the desire to change existence to a full life in the spiritual plane.

Answer that it is better: to remain in the same state of a soulless robot or to rejoice, be nervous, love, suffer and be happy from this living movement of the soul? Hint: for some reason, you started to read these lines, it means that not everything is hopeless. If the desire has not yet arisen, just push yourself, get over your personality or what is left of it. Get angry, finally: how could a multi-faceted person be inside an empty tank?

The first few steps that will help start the process of "rehabilitation":

Complain Take good care of somebody in the waistcoat. Yes, many people think that it is not good to complain. But fade away, gritting his teeth - even worse.

Trust. Do not be afraid to seek help from loved ones. Do not hesitate, they love you and therefore will understand, listen, comfort.

Understand the reasons. Take a break. Leave You need to be alone with your inner loneliness. Before you sow something and wait for fresh shoots, you need to dig up the soil, remove weeds and dry sod. Get rid of scorched grass.

Swing your frozen emotions. Someone will help extreme and adrenaline. Someone - sentimental films and books. Someone - the contemplation of Niagara Falls or the sunrise over Lake Baikal. And for someone - a new love.

Have you set the stage? And now - sow!

Sowing for the soul: a few simple tips

Devastation concerns all aspects of life. Fill the soul with a variety of seeds, food, make it a useful, tasty and balanced "diet."

Personal life and the world of feelings. Love, tenderness, passion ... How long do you keep it all on the surface of your "dead lake"? Now, when the water becomes alive, it's time to measure the depth. Give your loved one the opportunity to warm you, he has long tolerated your detachment. If there is no such person, you need to open your soul wider and look back. In fact, he is, you just were so detached from everything that fate decided to save an important meeting until better times.

Relations with loved ones. Urgently go to your grandmother for tea with jam, in an atmosphere of unconditional adoration. And then - to the parents. How long have you not been heart to heart? These are people who love you wholeheartedly. The only aunt has not been able to reach you for a year now, you promise and do not call back? Are your friends tired of trying to stir you up? Meet everyone and dream about the future together.

Job. Take a look at your work from a different perspective. Perhaps some responsibilities can be approached more creatively, and this will increase motivation. Or calculate the options for changing it, but do not immediately cut off all the ends, otherwise you risk to lie on the sofa for an indefinite time, which will worsen the condition. Get acquainted, finally, with colleagues closer: among them there are interesting people who are ready to support your creative impulses.

Hobbies. Force yourself to agree to all offers of attendance of diverse events: something is sure to catch on. Find an occupation that is fundamentally different from what you did before. This will help get out of the usual framework, run "for the flags." And new acquaintances will surely give you fresh, unexpected emotions.

To fill the emptiness in the soul and re-grow a flowering garden, you only need, oddly enough, just to start filling it and get pleasure from this process. Then your world will shine with feelings and interesting colors, and your soul with harmony.