There are many reasons why many women and men are unhappy with their lives. They are convinced that the whole environment is an obstacle to their happiness. But is it really ?! How often are the people around us to blame for our problems ?! Right! Blame the critic himself. With evil thoughts he creates a glass cage for himself. Words fills home dark colors.
Deeds repels from the lives of loved and loving people. He is completely alone. He continues to rot in this place and spread anger on other people. ALMA Academy of Women's Wisdom and its leading trainer, Tamara Ra, tells how to deal with a critic.
How to recognize the critic?
One or two signs suffice:
Dissatisfied face.
ALMA Academy explains the symptom on the example of the situation: come to the New Year's corporate event with colleagues in the most beautiful institution of the city, enjoy beautiful music, delicious dishes, an interesting program. We decided to capture the moment and take a picture. After a few days, open the gallery and you will see, first of all, not 30 happy faces of colleagues, but the malicious expression on the face of your partner. Remember not how the music played or what the contests were. And the dissatisfied, who constantly grumbled. You will start thinking about him and will become uneasy from the negative that comes from him. Such people are in almost every team. They always don't like everything. They spoil the overall picture of perception, even the most fantastic moment in life.
Gossip
The ALMA Academy explains the symptom on the example of a situation: You communicate well with a work colleague, as with a friend. At lunchtime, you hear dirty gossip about your relationship. You will feel uneasy. Leave the restaurant or think about how to resolve this misunderstanding, so as not to look in the eyes of colleagues or loved in a bad light.
Act differently. Continue to listen to the conversation. You will understand that you are not the object of their discussions. Gossip does not matter what to talk about. Do not worry that someone will hear inaccurate information from their lips, they will not believe. So do not waste your energy on them.
How to deal with criticism?
The way of behavior that helps to effectively deal with criticism depends on the criticism itself.
To begin, learn to distinguish objective criticism from biased. Objective criticism is based on the desire of the addressee to help correct behavior for the better. If the source with good intentions, listen and think about his opinion. Maybe you accept his point of view, it will be acceptable to you, then do not forget to thank.
As a rule, we face biased criticism. In this case, the interlocutor tries to manipulate our life. As a result, he infects us with bad thoughts, well-being. What to do in this case?
Send quarantine critic.
Remember, such a person is a carrier of an infectious emotional disease. Communicating with him will only lead to irritability, anger and hatred for himself and others.
If right now you remembered someone with such a diagnosis, feel free to take the phone in your hands and remove it from your friends on social networks and from your notebook. Does this seem absurd ?! Try to do it and you will see how your life will change. You will even begin to feel the taste of water in a new way, not to mention how much you love life and will be able to get real pleasure from the most ordinary, at first glance, things.
Remember the last time you played with children in the yard. And so that they do not think about work, about a colleague who went on vacation and left you in the midst of the reporting period ?! A year, two, three back ?! Of course, do not remember. Now imagine that you have divided duties equally and performed everything on time. How nice it will be to take a day off and spend time with the family, not thinking about work and not accumulating anger on colleagues.
The main rule in any criticism is to start with yourself. Stop criticizing your actions, actions, thinking that others are guilty in this situation. With such thoughts you eat yourself from the inside. By the way, that is why you can not relax and fully relax. Happiness is not with you, you are captured by hatred and anger.
Do not make excuses.
When you start making excuses in front of a critic, arguing with him, you automatically let the anger into your life, accumulate hatred and destroy all positive emotions.
Do not attack.
Hear criticism and immediately strike back ?! Why fall to the level of criticism and poison your life?
Sorry.
Do not hide anger and resentment against this person, so all the hatred will be inside you. Release all evil thoughts and sincerely, with an open heart, pray for him. Ask the universe for help so that this person can get rid of the poison in his heart.
Do not treat.
If you are not an experienced mentor, a doctor who owns all the tools to deal with infectious emotional diseases, do not interfere in the life of the patient. Trying to listen and support the interlocutor, you subject your emotional center to infection. If you want to help, suggest contacting an expert in this area and he will prescribe a suitable course of treatment.
How to cleanse the negative?
In one day a huge amount of information passes through us. We go to the bus and hear the curse words of the driver, at work we meet with disgruntled colleagues, listen to the resentment of friends, relatives.
One evil word as if ashes settles in karma and spoils us from within. How many bad thoughts we hear every day, and how many we pronounce ?! Our karma is filled with black ash. From here and all our failures and discontent with life. Therefore, it is so important not only to watch your speech and the speech of your loved ones, but also to purify your karma, so as not to keep all the anger and hatred inside, not to rot. Try to clear your thoughts and open the way to new challenges! You will see how your life will change and, finally, you will notice achievements on the way to your goal!
