How often people hear from people that they are not satisfied with their lives, that if at a certain time at some turning point they made a different decision, then their life would have been different (always - much more successful). But now, due to age or circumstances, they cannot change anything. But if life does not suit so much that nothing brings joy, sooner or later the question will still arise - how to start life from scratch.
The content of the article:
What is important to consider
Time to change
Psychologist's comment
What needs to be considered?
A huge number of coaches says that you need to go out of your comfort zone and expand your consciousness to reach a new level. People, tired of the routine and succumbing to emotions, blindly follow instructions, waiting for miracles. Is everything so simple and cloudless?
Of course, there are plenty of examples of how people have changed their lives for the better. But we should not forget that no less even lost what they had. The necessary condition in order to cross out everything and start from scratch is the full realization that the current situation does not fully suit you, and that you will not regret anything. Responsibility for your life always lies with you. Now you can not say that someone else is to blame for the fact that your life is not as you would like.
You must understand that changing your habits is not easy, but it is possible if you have willpower.
To start life anew, another thing is needed - a change in one's consciousness, in attitudes towards oneself, people, situations.
For example, if a woman decided to leave her husband, who does not respect her, there is no guarantee that the next man in her life will not behave as well. If she does not respect herself, is the initiator of conflict situations or, on the contrary, suffers from what should not be tolerated, it is likely that she will have to go through the same in the second round.
Therefore, the beginning of a new and happy life must be preceded by a deep analysis of what you have today, a study of the reasons that led to situations that do not suit you. It is a change in thinking, avoiding past mistakes that will help to reach a new level.
You must understand that Moscow was not built right away, and be ready that there will be difficulties on your way. Most likely, the most serious of them can be calculated right now. Think about how you will solve problems. Finding a solution - implement it immediately.
Filter all the information that comes to you from friends and acquaintances. Everyone has their own vision of the situation, but even if the person advises you of something of the best intentions, it’s not a fact that he himself would have done what he says.
Regardless of which area in your new life you have chosen to pay the most attention, give up bad habits. This is always a plus. In addition to smoking and the habit of postponing important things, there is another bad habit that must be eliminated. This is negative thinking, pessimism, tediousness, bloating an elephant from a fly. There should be no illusions, but at the same time you should understand that almost every problem has a solution.
Instead, enter into a good habit of living alone with yourself. This is necessary not for work or for drawing up the next plan, but in order for you to learn how to feel and hear yourself. This will help to avoid many mistakes and wrong decisions, to realize in time the need for further changes, to determine the right direction for your growth.
Make it so that nothing binds you to the old life. For example, if you decide to quit, finish all projects, leave your husband - divorce, if there are common children - work on yourself so that meetings with your ex-husband do not bring dissonance into your emotional balance.
You can literally start your life from scratch. Put a sheet of paper in front of you and write or draw anything you would like to see in it. It can be your dreams about home or travel, and your new social circle, and those traits that you would like to develop in yourself. Then write down what you have today and what steps you need to take to get what you want. Here it is necessary to assess the situation as realistically as possible. It is also better to describe everything as detailed as possible - so you will understand that nothing is impossible, and even with small steps you can come to a big goal. Most often, people are kept in place by the fear of change, while few people think that it is much worse if everything remains the same.
Decide on your goals. Most likely, you had them, but often people who came to the need to change their lives, change them too. The goal is your motivator. The more global and desirable it is, the more effort you will put.
Oddly enough, most people live without such a goal. Therefore, it is not surprising that their life does not suit them. If goals persist, think about what new methods you can achieve them.
Consider your unsuccessful attempts and do not try to get the same thing in the same way a million times. If it did not work out - analyze the reasons, change strategies, be flexible. Life is a succession of attempts, not all of them end successfully, and this is normal. The main thing is your conclusions.
If you make a plan for a new life, discard the wording “I owe”. You crave for changes that will bring you pleasure, and not make a list of responsibilities for the next five years.
When to start?
Start right today and right now. No need to postpone the changes, continuing to live not your life. Life cannot be paused because it will go on anyway, regardless of whether you take the first step today or not. But do everything meaningfully. Want to change the profession - go to the courses, read professional literature.
Nobody forces you to quit today to think about where to get money for a piece of bread tomorrow. But to postpone the change on Monday, January 1, the next birthday is not necessary. Think about what you can do right now and just do it. You will have to understand that movement is now your new habit, if you really want to change something.
