Today we will talk about how to properly meet girls, how to create in their eyes an attractive image that will help develop a first acquaintance and flirt into something more.
No matter what purpose you ask (serious intentions to have a serious relationship or a short fling), the first conversation with an unfamiliar girl, making contact and the ability to arrange her in relation to yourself are crucial. The girl already in the first five minutes of dating is the opinion of the guy, and then it is very difficult to change.
Internal training
The most important obstacle for many young people when meeting a girl is the fear of failure.
They hesitate to approach unfamiliar girls, expecting failure beforehand. This is initially a losing position, so before you get acquainted you need to put your thoughts in order and believe in success.
The following technique helps some of them: Imagine that everything is happening on a friendly wave, that you are not a creature of the other sex, but just a person just like you, with your complexes, strengths and weaknesses.
Others can be inspired by dating statistics: only 9% of men dare to meet girls on the street or in any public places, and about half of them can take this step only in a state of drunkard (for bravery, as they say). So you still have little competition, and against the background of drunken "hussars" you will definitely look like a real prince.
In fact, all girls are pleased when a neat, handsome young man meets them on the street, so you have every chance of success, just be bolder.
External training
The appearance of the guy who is suitable to meet, perhaps more important than the words that he says. Meet on clothes!
Take care that you are wearing clean, ironed clothes, and not a crumpled, dirty tracksuit that smells like a gym. The hairstyle is also of great importance: a fresh haircut or even a modern styling will definitely attract the attention of the girl, while the regrown eyes closing their eyes will definitely lead to an association with a person without a certain place of residence who has no place to even have a haircut.
And one more super important tip! It is better to postpone acquaintance with the girls, even if you really want it, provided that you can hardly stand on your feet after a lot of libations. This can result in a detox, where girls can call carefully.
The first steps
Your first phrase and the tone with which you pronounce it is a condition for the success of all your further actions.
If a girl considers your entry banal, boring or stupid, then it’s unlikely to continue the conversation. Therefore, it is better to prepare in advance a few phrases that can surprise her, arouse her interest or make her smile. Humor and originality will definitely help to succeed, but be careful not to overdo it and not seem strange.
Here are a few possible phrases that will help unbanally and positively start dating
- I am your genie. You have two wishes left. (A rare girl will not ask why two, not three - with this you can create intrigue).
- Would you like to ride with me on the escalator? (A good option for dating in the mall).
- Oh, hi! Recognized me? So I did not recognize you either. Let's get acquainted again?
- You can kiss me if I'm wrong. Your name is Evlampia, right?
Once you have a positive response, do not extinguish, maintain the conversation. This is no less important than the first phrase.
Keep the conversation going
Are there any ways to create a pleasant first impression that will help you develop further relationships? Of course! Here are some recommendations:
- Smile: a sincere smile says that you are an open, positive-minded person.
- Speak loud enough for every word to be heard. In addition, make sure that she hears you (ask to remove the headphones with a gesture) - you’re not likely to want to repeat several times.
- Do not wave your hands: control unnecessary gestures that you may have because of the excitement, so as not to seem too emotional and intrusive. Try not to put your hands on your chest either, it can create a wrong impression of you as a closed and unfriendly person.
- Do not touch her hands or other parts of the body during the first 5 minutes of dating - this will only scare her.
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Try not to make long pauses in the conversation, it will create a feeling of awkwardness. Since you decided to meet a girl, get together, be confident in yourself - girls always like it. - Offer her something: to go to the cinema, to a cafe, to an amusement park — anything, just not to end the conversation without agreeing to develop relations. If she responds with a direct refusal, then you should not insist on your own: try to take her phone number and call back after a while if you really like it. Some girls like to “marinate” guys, at once disagreeing on the continuation of dating, and appreciate those who do not give up the first time, but do not press too hard.
Try not to make long pauses in the conversation, it will create a feeling of awkwardness. Since you decided to meet a girl, get together, be confident in yourself - girls always like it.Behavior in case of failure
What to do if your attempt to meet ended in failure? Do not be discouraged and do not give up - go to other girls you like. If you refused one, it does not mean that you are not lucky with others.
Many girls do have boyfriends / husbands, so do not doubt their answers. In addition, the mood of the girl at the moment also plays a big role: if she is upset about something or is obviously in a hurry somewhere, then it is better to choose another object for acquaintance.
How to continue dating a girl
The ideal result of dating is a subsequent date or its phone number in your mobile phone. Do not postpone the request to give your number in the closet: after speaking, filled with your feelings and fear of refusal, you can simply forget to ask her to dictate your number. This often happens, so try already in the first minutes of dating to enlist the cherished numbers that will help you to further develop the relationship if you wish.
When you have the phone, make an appointment with her. Offer her to go somewhere, while trying not to be trivial: you can invite her for a horse ride, a balloon flight, and at least for mushrooms in the forest - it all depends on your imagination and financial possibilities. The main thing is not to be banal.
Anyway, the main condition for success in meeting girls is self-confidence and attractiveness. No one will benefit from being locked in, and only you will lose from it. Girls adore confident, charismatic guys who are not afraid to come up and take the first step.
If you like the girl, do not miss your chance to meet - come up, and it is likely that you will achieve your goal. It is better to try once, than to regret what I did not dare to do.
Often less attractive, but more self-confident guys win the best girls. Their secret is in their confidence, which allows them to create the impression of a real man who is not afraid of refusal and always gets his own way.
Alyona, Solikamsk
