The seeming inaccessibility of each other interlocutors in Internet chat rooms makes some sociable girls overly careless.
However, with the current technology to find out all the secrets about any users on the network, it is easy even for a not very advanced network user.
Therefore, if your personal sense of tact from your childhood is lame, and your second name is lightheadedness, try take advantage of someone else's successful experience communicating with men in boarding school.
Several pros and cons
Thanks to the Internet, you can not only make many acquaintances without leaving your favorite chair and “embraces” of a warm rug, but also make friends for years, not meeting in the physical world.
How useful or harmful is this form of communication for women who decide to try personal happiness using a dating site?
The advantages of dating, with the help of sites for communication between men and women.
- Some dating would never happen in the real world because of geographic distance places of residence of men and women and too little chance of a chance meeting.
- The interlocutor is safe and at no risk, if a man suddenly starts to behave aggressively and speak out against her some threats.
True to 100%, provided she had not previously informed him of her real coordinates.
- You can select candidates for friend invitations, with some preliminary idea of their appearance and interests - most dating site owners oblige visitors to provide detailed information about themselves in their personal profile.
- Number of friends can be any.
- If the owner of the account likes compliments, then, usually, male interlocutors do not stint on them.
- Quite comfortable to communicate even with foreign men - online translators are not literally, but it is quite tolerable to convey the essence of the messages written in any common language.
Disadvantages of online chat with men on dating sites:
- Sometimes difficult Reliably understand the emotional coloring of communication.
Information is often perceived through the prism of personal experiences and experiences, which creates the wrong impression about the essence of the dialogue that the participant has learned.
- Some users put in the profile of the photo is not from the personal archivein order to mislead interlocutors regarding the type of occupation of a man, his interests and other things.
- Impressive ladies can to take at face value all that is reported and promised interlocutors, and after making wrong conclusions.
- Some men allow themselves boorish and hooligan behavior, send pornographic photos and make indecent proposals.
- Profile of a charming man in communication may belong to a crook or even a maniac. In the first case, there is a risk of parting with the money that was thrown out, ostensibly for a good purpose, and in the second case, with health and even life, if the woman decides to continue communicating offline.
- All written in the message recipient can scream and take advantage of against you, if suddenly in the future you will offend him with something.
- Some sites welcome everyone, so the resource support team does not respond to reasonable complaints from women, receiving obscene suggestions from users of men not even added to the list of friends.
Tips and tricks for girls from psychologists
There is an opinion that on dating sites three types of men are registered:
- hardened machos seeking to gain the attention of as many women as possible;
- shy gentlemen, hesitant to be the first to approach the ladies in real life;
- very busy "boys" who simply do not have time to visit places to meet with unfamiliar women.
Naturally, for making acquaintance with a representative of a separate conventional group need to use a separate tactic.
In the first case, a visit to a man’s profile can be a push to start a dialogue.
And then virtual Casanova he starts the dialogue. Of course, if your type in his taste.
Shy need to "take to the boarding" the most. Since he may hesitate for a long time to start a dialogue first. Especially if he liked your photos.
To the representative of the third group is also desirable turn first.
If you want to be included in the number of people with whom he nevertheless began to communicate and will look for time in his busy schedule for conversations with you.
How to start a conversation?
Consider the venue. On a dating site, a man just has to offer to talk, as he, in theory, will respond to you by consent - he came here for this and came.
Renouncement can be obtained if, judging by the information in your profile, you are the absolute opposite of the image of Madame Perfection, which is built in the head of this man.
Trying to make acquaintance in VK (VKontakte), Facebook or the same Odnoklassniki, at first it is worth a little walk on the tape or in the collection of photos from the account of the man you like.
Desirable in incognito mode. And then ask questions about what he saw, to start a conversation.
If you do not understand the technique and other hobbies, which, judging by the photo, is interested in a man of interest, you can start a conversation on the subject of clothing or accessories.
Or ask opinion on pereposchennoy article - if you see that the topic is interesting to a person, and he even actively discussed it with someone.
How to keep in touch?
How to keep up a conversation with a guy:
- Communicate with clear interest.
A couple of “really”, “how it turns out that”, long sentences in the dialogue on your part are indirect signs that you are really interested in the topic under discussion.
- Tell about yourself with a vivid interest in your person, but without unnecessary details and specifics about the participants in situations from your life.
- Kidding, but, preferably, not with the help of statements, whose beard is already "hanging" from the monitor screen.
What to talk with a man in the correspondence?
About all that interests him and you.
If you versatile personality, you can support communication with most men of different ages.
With limited interests “Play on the interlocutor's field” - ask him about things he is delighted with or would like to receive.
Desirable so that you are at least a little bit in the subjectyou want to chat with. Or they are ready to learn about its nuances from a guy with whom you like to communicate and he is a guru in her. Well, or he considers himself as such.
Then get ready to read a lot of new things that you may not find useful in practice - if the topic is interesting only for a man, and you constantly touch on it just to keep his attention to you.
Variants of topics:
- Hobby. As originally masculine: fishing, technology, sports, and others.
Even if a man has a peculiar passion and you have not even heard of such a hobby, then you have a chance to learn something new and, perhaps, also get carried away with it.
- Music. Discussion of new hits, the life of singers, interesting cases at concerts, can last for days - if the interlocutors are true fans of a performer.
- Movie. A man’s view of things in general is attractive and as unknown to women as the deepest depths of space.
- Travels. Ask to tell about the impressions received by a man on a recent journey. Tell us about your experience. Share useful information on armoring for overnight stays or ask for advice on how to spend less on housing without sacrificing comfort.
- Sport. If the interlocutor is a pros in some form, but not very talkative about his achievements, you can always ask how you can achieve the results in the same sport or just in putting your figure in order.
How to communicate?
How to communicate with a man by correspondence:
- Politely, without a mat and an abundance of slang words. The exception is cases when the interlocutor on the dialogue in a different way is not able to express himself.
- Do not disappear from the network during conversations, naively hoping that you will be looked for and wait for the continuation of the correspondence. This can only be hoped for after a long relationship.
And in some cases one may face the fact that another candidate was found for the place of the favorite talker.
Common mistakes
Finding a man or a guy who wants to get a friend, do not make mistakes that can cause a person strong negative towards you.
And do not be too careless in their stories about his personal life.
What not to write, talk during video chat:
- Do not bring down a heap of your problems from real. Not everyone is ready to substitute his vest for tears of a person who "knows" a couple of hours or days.
- Do not try to create an image of an advanced lady in the sexual theme with rich practical experience.
Interest in such a woman can only be in persons with developmental disabilities.
- Do not send photos where your intimate body parts are bare. This is a fertile material for men, trades blackmail and extortion.
- Do not report the real coordinates of your place of residence., until you gather about the interlocutor enough personally verified information.
- Stop communicating when you receive a request to help financially. In 99% of cases, Alfonso and blackmailers behave this way.
- Do not communicate in the correspondencethat you would not want to tell your friends from real.
Wandering around the network looking for friends, remember that communication is here from what is happening in real life differs only in the form of data transmission.
For the rest, you need to behave as in everyday life: without losing faces and respecting your own and other people's borders of personal space.
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