When people enter a relationship, they create your own world - the world of couples.
In it there are common jokes, traditions, rules and, of course, the gentle names that lovers call each other.
The value of affectionate nicknames in relationships
Affectionate nicknames allow you to emphasize the degree of warmth to the partner, to distinguish it from other people and to bring the element of the game into a simple conversation.
Very often in pairs affectionate nicknames completely supersede the real names, being their full substitute.
If you sort affectionate nicknames by composition, can explain their meaning:
- Sound "F" It is found in affectionate nicknames extremely rarely, as it is associated with discontent (you can recall the ubiquitous "fu!"). The sound “X”, which marks bright and sometimes frightened emotions (“oh!” And “oh!”), Is also quite rare.
- BUT sound "W" which attracts attention and caresses the ear, is very common. This sound literally attracts the interlocutor, forcing them to concentrate. Not for nothing, demanding silence, people say "Shh!"
- Sound "K" thanks to diminutive suffixes in tender nicknames found everywhere. Partners perceive it as a call to close the distance and get rid of the shackles of exemplary ethics.
- Sound "L" in personal addresses of lovers found almost 40% more often than in everyday speech of a person. The sound "L" is the personification of emotions that literally ask outside.
Selection of nicknames occurs intuitively, without conscious control. Thus, a gentle appeal betrays the true attitude and thoughts of a person.
Reasons for disliking nicknames
Why do some girls and guys do not like affectionate nicknames?
Not all guys and girls like tender nicknames and names.
Some couples even stipulate this point in advanceby refusing informal and sweet appeals.
There are several reasons for this:
- Discrepancy to image. If a person is used to the fact that people refer to him by name and patronymic, devoutly shaking his leg, he can remain in the form of a boss / house and at home. In this case, diminutive and petting words seem out of place and stupid, irrelevant to the status of the big boss or the formidable director.
- Associative association with insult. If in childhood a person was teased by using words with diminutive suffix or animal names, giving these words a negative coloring, (a monkey with glasses, a silly one, a little pig, a fool, etc.), in adulthood a formed person may experience rejection of tender nicknames.
They will unknowingly be associated with insults and child insults.
- Fight for your own "I." Name change is the definition of a certain identity of an individual. Therefore, people, when they are called by some nickname, can desperately resist and offer their name as the only correct option.
- Fear of immaturity. When a partner constantly uses affectionate words and nicknames, he seems to fall into childhood. In the absence of any problems, this turns into a game within a love union. But if one of the partners experiences anxiety, fear of the future or problems, he unconsciously rejects any signs of “childhood” and infantilism that are associated with weakness and dependence. Affectionate nicknames cause irritation, because they talk about the carelessness of the elect in such a difficult period.
- Diffidence. People suffering from self-doubt tend to “wind up” non-existent facts and guesses.
Affectionate nicknames for them signal a frivolous attitude of a partner or ridicule on his part (even if it is not so).
How to call a girl who likes?
The nickname classification is based on human perception of the object of his sympathies.
For girls, these are usually pretty comparisons that highlight the touching weakness, visual appeal, or “purely female” traits of character.
- Animals. Kitten, hare, chanterelle, hamster, fish and other representatives of the fauna can be affectionate nickname. In a relationship where each of the partners has a sense of humor and a healthy self-esteem, more exotic options like caterpillar, giraffe and mammoth can be used.
- Abstractions. If a guy calls a girl a miracle, happiness, a dream, a sun, a moon and a star, he emphasizes a reverent attitude towards her. On the other hand, it gives formality to relations, even in terms of pretty nicknames.
After all, such abstract concepts sound beautiful and poetic, but at the same time do not force the guy to "lisp".
- Traditional treatment. Beloved, dear, priceless, my dear, my and other traditional petting addresses are confirmation of the feelings and status of relationships. For a girl, this is a kind of guarantee of reliability. After all, a girl to whom they do not have sincere feelings can be called both a kitten and a mouse. But the beloved will be called only the one that is really appreciated and they want to share life with it.
- Kindergarten. Baby, baby, baby and others, returning to childhood nicknames, talking about the patronizing treatment of a guy to a girl. It is very important to use such nicknames in case lovers already live together. Otherwise, it can serve as a signal to the girl that she is taken lightly.
- Signs of possession. Nicknames that begin with the possessive pronoun “my” express particularly deep feelings for a partner, in which the fear of losing her merges with the desire to demonstrate to others around the right to possession of a loved one.
- Nice rudeness. Some couples who are prone to mutual provocations choose rather rude words as nicknames. Therefore, the guy chooses the nicknames torturer, witch, tyrant, vampire, etc. to refer to his girlfriend.
With more complex relationships and the presence of internal dissatisfaction with a partner, such appeals can be a reproach in a game form and used without a diminutive suffix.
- Non-existent words. When emotions beat over the edge, and the guy can't pick up suitable words for expressing her feelings, the girl becomes a new doll, mily, saharush and other non-existent characters. Such a personal language, incomprehensible to others, emphasizes the mutual understanding between partners and creates for the couple an individual space in which they can openly express feelings and emotions in relation to each other.
- Sweets. Candy, Chocolates, Sweetness, Melons, Marmeladka and other nicknames bring erotic notes into the conversation. Such nicknames say that the boy is experiencing a strong sexual attraction to the girl and is trying to seduce her.
- The most beautiful. Pupa, princess, irresistible, etc. All these appeals focus on the appearance of the girl. For a girl, such nicknames will become a delight for the ears and raise self-esteem. But at a certain stage, any beauty and princess will think that the guy appreciates in her only the external component, not paying attention to the inner world.
What better way to never call her?
There are no definite nicknames that cannot be used for girls. In each pair own degree of trust, humor and mutual understanding.
The only thing that should be avoided - the emphasis on the shortcomings of the girl.
If your darling is worried about fat cheeks, don't even joke call her a hamster. And young ladies who suffer because of their shyness and cannot freely communicate with strangers will not be happy with the nickname fish.
How to contact your favorite guy?
How can you call a guy who likes?
Guys are not so loyal to nicknameslike girls.
Therefore, in order to make your beloved pleasant, you must carefully choose affectionate treatment.
- Strong beasts. Guys prefer to be tigers, cubs, bears and other strong predators, albeit in a diminutive form. But they do not like to be rabbits or mice, as these nicknames symbolize weakness and naivety.
Exceptions are possible only in those couples where the guy is in a strong emotional dependence on the girl.
- Individual characteristics. Ryzhik, donut, astronaut, professor, self-made and other appeals associated with the individual characteristics of the guy will demonstrate how the girl appreciates the qualities of her chosen one.
- Traditional treatment. Sweetheart, dear, dear, dear and other gentle words will not cause irritation to the guy, as they are ubiquitous and are a kind of recognition in warm feelings.
- Brutal tenderness. Bad guy, macho, superhero, hero, winner. A woman, using such nicknames, simultaneously inspires and seduces a man. She emphasizes his strength and her dependence on this power.
- Derivatives on behalf of. This is a very common category. Andrey becomes Andryushka, and Oleg turns into Olezhka thanks to his chosen one.
What names are better not to use?
Guys have a negative attitude to nicknames that detract from their masculinity.
The baby, the peanut, the baby, the dolphin, pupsik and other references can injure self-esteem or provoke a slight attack of aggression.
Better to give up and from too "lisping" nicknames (musik, mania, pompon, etc.)
Guys, like girls, hard to take criticism of their shortcomings. Therefore, a man who is worried about the stormy vegetation on his body should not be called fluffy. A bald guy can hardly be happy to hear bald address.
Especially neat one must deal with nicknames derived from the name.
If in childhood your chosen one was teased, calling Antoshka-Crumb or Duška-Bruchka, then the guy will not want to hear that form of his name again.
To find affectionate nicknames, perfect for your lover or sweetheart, it is necessary to experiment and sensitively monitor the reaction of the person to whom the original appeal is intended.
But the presence of cute appeals will strengthen your connection and help bring the element of the game into everyday life.
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