Life is a series of white and black stripes. You don’t think about it if there is more light and good, but when the black stripe draws in, your hands go down and it seems that you have no strength left to live. How to get out of this state and is it possible?
What if there is no strength to live?
Sometimes fate gives difficult trials, but at the same time, it never gives more than a person can withstand. Even small things can lead to deep depression, if there are many of them and they don’t end. Therefore, firstly, it is necessary to clearly understand what exactly led you to this state - if it is unrequited love, problems at work, a quarrel with a loved one, in other words, situations that can be changed, then you need to work out the correct course of conduct, realize what changes are needed, and move forward.
In such cases, motivation and ability to look at the situation from the outside always helps.
It is very difficult, for example, to endure the separation from your loved one, a divorce. But in such cases, you should always pay attention to yourself, try to make yourself better - externally and internally. Exercise in sports, health, appearance and internal content. And even if at the first stage the desire to be with the same person becomes the motivation, most likely, as time passes, the need for his love will be replaced by your love for yourself. It is difficult in such situations for women who remain with children, especially if they have to be torn between children, work, and home. One should think about whose support you can count on - maybe grandmothers or girlfriends can sometimes sit with their children, unloading their mother. Maybe mother learns to rebuild and rest and recuperate while playing with children. In any case, the first is to accept the existing situation. Acceptance, lack of illusions will give strength and the ability to move on.
If it seems that there is no power, because a whole series of minor troubles has fallen on you, think about what will happen if you do not solve the problems that have arisen. Perhaps nothing terrible will happen. And if it is necessary to solve these issues, is it possible to transfer this to someone? Chronic fatigue is becoming an increasingly common diagnosis at the modern pace of life. Give yourself the opportunity to take a break, take vitamins, find time for exercises that delight you and relax.
In fact, people are not tired of difficult situations, but of the negative emotions that are inside them. Irritation, resentment, anger accumulate inside, affecting the human psyche. Sooner or later, their pressure will be so great that the person will not stand it and will fall. The consequences of this situation may be different, in some cases, even tragic. In any case, infinitely negative cannot accumulate and he needs a way out. Realizing this, you make a decision about what to do next - to endure, aggravating the situation or to give these emotions a way out and relieve your nervous system.
Allow yourself to feel what you feel, do not hide these emotions from yourself in the first place. Find a place for them, realize that in some cases it is normal to feel irritation and resentment.
Every person in life is faced with a variety of situations that can take him out of mental equilibrium. Some - several times a day (much depends on the state of the nervous system, psyche, temperament).
One of the best tips would be to learn how to turn off emotions and analyze what is important and what is not. Each of us experienced unrequited love, when it seemed that life had no meaning without this person. But after some time, these feelings disappear, and others replace them, to another person. This is an example that is often found in life, and it vividly illustrates that nothing can be permanent - neither good nor bad.
It’s better to live without giving emotional tint to situations that upset you. Enjoy happy moments, draw energy from them. At the time of the black band, give up quick decisions, unnecessary movements, use this time to think, think. Perhaps the period has come to change something in life, and fate tells you the direction in which to move on.
How to survive the loss of a loved one
There are situations that can not be changed, you can not play back. They are the most difficult. When close people leave the life, it seems that everything is over, the world collapsed. And to some extent this is true - the world will no longer be the same. But you stayed in it and need to move forward. Even if you think that it does not make sense, and the pain overlaps the mind. They say when you feel bad - go and help those who are even worse. This is good advice - after all, only by giving, we recover, fill up, become stronger.
It is very difficult to learn how to build life anew. After losing a loved one, at some point you realize that nothing happened to the outside world: the sun is shining, people are going about some business, and the neighbors are still slandering behind the wall. At such moments, the horror of the fact that no one can understand all the pain that is inside you can grab. But in reality, life shows something else - it has not ended for you, it continues, and everything in it also contains both good and bad.
If you want to know how to live, even if there is no strength, this means the main thing - you want to live, and appreciate life, which means you can see beauty in it. The pain of losing a person may not become quieter, but it will become different. You should know that your loved one, even if he is not near you, wishes you happiness and wants you to suffer less. Therefore, you just need to live on. Every day to do something, go out, do any physical work. In such difficult situations, it sometimes makes sense to seek help from a psychologist. It should not be forgotten that severe mental injuries can have equally serious consequences. But it is still necessary to live, and the specialist can provide exactly the support that is needed.
