Sometimes in the life of a person events occur that show: everything, so it is impossible to go further, cardinal changes in life are required. It would be desirable that changes in life have a happy continuation, so you need to know how to start a new life so that you do not have to do it again.
Two options for change
It is not uncommon that a successful businessman, having left for Tibet or the mountains of the Caucasus, leaves everything and remains there forever. Quite a few people believe that starting a new life should be abruptly changing the habitat.
This has a definite meaning. When moving around people change, work, everything that shapes a person's life. There is very little time left for all sorts of experiences: after all, you need to find and equip housing, get a job and get used to it. And, it seems, the thoughts about the former life will stop visiting at once, and the old mistakes will never be repeated.
Sometimes it happens. But this option has a few pitfalls. First, the life of a person to a greater degree forms not the environment, but himself. So, if a person is prone to despond and quickly give up, he will be able to do it regardless of the circumstances, the city of residence or the place of work. This also applies to all other character traits. It turns out a simple logical chain: the old look at new things suggests solutions that led to the collapse before. A person can choose the same exhausting work - because it is profitable, new friends who remind him of old, or look for a new life partner on the same principle as before. The result will be disappointment, because everything will unfold in a familiar story, but with other people. Then, at the new stage of change, neither physical nor emotional forces can remain.
It is not always possible to move, sometimes the obligations are chained to one place. But if we start from the fact that changes around a person begin with changes in his mind, then relocation is not at all necessary. But in order to thus build your world around you take a lot of time and effort. Such construction occurs in several stages.
Beginning of all beginnings
First of all, you need to determine the purpose of change, and therefore the focus of all their actions. It may not be easy. It seems that the goal is simple: to become happy. Then you have to ask yourself: what aspects of life poison the very existence? Harmful habits, exhausting work, depression, and other serious illnesses can seem insurmountable barriers.
Once the goal is assigned, you need to take a good look at things and determine what prevents you from reaching the existing one. It can be habits, circumstances or your own thoughts. In addition, there may be obstacles on the way to the goal: from your own fears to lack of financial resources. All these aspects need to be thought out and written down in order to prepare in advance. This will help set intermediate goals.
Thoughts
For each person, the world is his subjective perception of the surrounding Universe. Therefore, it is safe to say that every person is responsible for his own perception of the world, because thoughts are the only thing that everyone can control.
When you create something new, you need to have the courage to say goodbye to the old. This also applies to thoughts: you need to get rid of memories that discourage or cause a feeling of guilt. First of all, you need to recognize that what happened is an experience that can be beneficial. Another simple thought: the past is no longer there, human actions are not saved, it is impossible to return to them and do otherwise. Even the beginning of reading this article is past.
To gain such a mindset will require conscious effort. As soon as such a thought has crept into the mind, it is necessary to get rid of it and fill in thoughts with useful ideas.
Leaving the past, you need to learn how to correctly perceive the present. In order for the new life to be more positive, you need to try to find something good in every situation. If a problem arises, you need to resist the temptation to give it a negative color. It is better to treat simply as a situation that requires a solution.
Thoughts must have a tangible sequel. Only in this way is the tangible part of human life formed.
Deeds
Life consists of habits and actions. They are the ones that influence the quality of life.
For example, many want to acquire good habits. One of them is the ability to live according to a schedule. An intermediate goal may be to establish a sleep mode. It would seem that it doesn’t change that much, but the regime will help avoid lack of sleep with all its ensuing consequences. The habit of planning a day will allow you to spend time with benefit and to find time for classes that bring pleasure.
Employment is one of the most effective medicines for sadness, and the basis for building a new life.
It so happens that to start a new chapter of the biography, you need to do something more than get up early. Serious affairs, such as divorce or moving from a paternal home, require a lot of effort. To gain them, you need to keep in mind the goal, and to represent life positively after the unpleasant process is over.
To have enough strength for the case, you do not need to spend them on doubts.
Of course, there will definitely be someone who decides that his opinion is decisive in someone else's business. You can hear that everyone lives like this, change will not give anything and so on. But none of these advisers will take responsibility for the decision, and will not live with its consequences.
People often act on the principle of buckets of crabs: they can crawl out one by one, but when one crab starts to crawl out, the others cling to it and pull it back.
The next step smoothly follows from this - changing the circle of communication and one’s own interests. Everyone adopts the traits and opinions of his friends - even those that he himself does not like. Therefore, in order to achieve goals easier, you need to surround yourself with people with similar views on life. Finding for yourself an activity that brings pleasure, you can make new friends.
Keeping a diary can greatly facilitate goal setting, keep track of small victories and form a new way of thinking.
