A happy relationship in which mutual love and respect reigns is almost a rarity in our times. Often, love relationships are not built on mutual feelings, respect and loyalty, but on selfish motives.
Such a model of relations implies that one partner loves and is ready to do everything for his passion, while the other simply takes advantage of the love that it causes, turning it into a means for manipulating a person.
The content of the article:
Better life without love than loneliness
Be careful, Alphonse!
How not to be deceived
Psychologist's comment
Unfortunately, in recent times, emotional, vulnerable women have often suffered from such women, who hope to meet their one and as a result turn out to be deceived.
Life without love
One of the most common reasons why women find themselves in such a situation is their long loneliness, a life without love, from which they fall into depression. Many single women dream of relationships, thinking: "I would have at least some man, even if not the richest, not the most intelligent, but that he was near." But what about mutual love?
Sometimes, in search of happiness, a woman is ready to start a relationship, even if a man clearly uses her: she is trying with all her might to tie him to herself, fulfilling all wishes, giving birth to children, occupying three positions at a time, leaving everything for the sake of her beloved. Is it worth it? Is a relationship with a person who does not love you better than loneliness? As a result, they remain at the bottom of the trough: the best years have passed, but there was no real love in life.
Beautiful Prince
Another category of women who fall into the network of selling ladies and gigolos is self-doubt women. Usually, these are unpretentious looks, but at the same time they are successful enough in a career to attract the attention of a man who is used to living at the expense of a woman.
Their relationship is tied up banal: Alphonse meets a woman in a public place, portraying great love at first sight. Then begins a period of romantic courting, the sole purpose of which is to turn the object around the head: the treacherous seducer showered the victim with compliments, gives flowers, and makes incredible dates.
But soon he comes to his “beloved one” asking him to lend him a large sum for treatment / opening a business / helping his parents, etc. The gullible person gives all her savings to help. As a result, she remains at the broken trough: without money, without a man and often pregnant or with a child in her arms.
Dear lover
There is another category of successful women who voluntarily become donors for such male leeches. These are widows or divorced women who inherited a large fortune, or single women after 40, who have made their whole career and earned a fortune, but have never built a family.
Such women often do not need love, but just need high-quality sex with a young lover, in exchange for which they are ready to support him, to carry around the resorts like their toys.
How to avoid a relationship with Alfonso
If you do not want to become a victim of Alphonse, try to follow our tips:
- Do not pay for dinner at a restaurant - the maximum is to divide the bill in half.
- Do not lend money to men you know less than half a year.
- Under any pretext, check the passport of a suspicious boyfriend.
- Try to learn more about the new acquaintance: ask to meet his friends, come to visit him, look at the work.
You should not worry if after your attempts to check the gentleman he will disappear from your life. A worthy man will not hide anything from the woman with whom he is determined to start a family.
Still, it is better to wait for a good man, and not to hope that you will be able to convert the Alfonso into an honest man.
Polina, Moscow
