"I love my relatives, but I want to live on a desert island." "Life flows according to plan, but nothing happens." "Pleasant things like a cup of coffee are no longer pleasing, as before." "I do not want anything". Familiar thoughts, yes? So - this is not depression, not natural laziness and not a midlife crisis. This is a big haha. And you need to get out of it in simple and understandable ways.
Nehuchuha appears where there are solid responsibilities, routine, monotony and boredom. When you are so tired that you do not have the strength to smile or talk quietly with children. When you can’t force yourself to wake up in the morning, there’s no place for high goals. Therefore, with a big life revolution will have to wait. But simple-technique-in-one-step will help get a quick and visible result. TOP ways to pull yourself out of the quagmire: 3 serious, 2 joyful and 1 "for girls".
Say no to persistent advisors
We often perceive the opinions of others as truth. Mom said that the child doesn’t know biology well, and you are already stalking him at every opportunity. A friend boasted that his girlfriend performs a striptease in the bedroom and her husband is waiting for a night cancan. Someone threw the phrase "by the age of 40, normal men already have their own business" and at night I can’t sleep anymore: it turns out I’m either crazy or not a man. Not because you think this is right or appropriate. Because someone said so.
What to do? Argue, prove, convince? In no case. It takes too much energy, and the result is zero. For every belief there are ten more counter arguments. Yes, others have their own opinion, but you also have it. So you just need to say "this is not mine." First mentally to yourself. Then out loud - if necessary.
If the other person starts to insist - try to resolve the issue by compromise. Okay, I dance in a thong, but you buy a dishwasher. Yes, I did not open a business, but my wife did not run away from me.
Sometimes things go too far. Those who want to teach persecute from all sides and increase the desire to live away from people. Then go to the second serious technique.
Stop chatting with eternal whiners
Vampires, even energy ones - this is too serious. They know what they are doing. But the eternal whiners act unconsciously. They collect hurt feelings, falls, minor failures. Complaints are poured out on each comer, overgrown with new details. Others whining does not deprive us of strength, but brings chaos into life. The most annoying thing is that the whiner’s mood doesn’t improve by a degree, but your nebuchuha noticeably gains strength.
What to do? Translate the topic or try to explain? In no case. It does not help. There is only one way out - to run, to drop the challenge, to come up with an unconvincing reason and to slip away. There is one more way for those who are not afraid of their own inadequacy: grunt. "I, as always, got into an unpleasant situation ..." - quack. "The boss again yelled at the wrong place ..." - quack. At the same time, the mood will rise.
It happens that the environment is not the only cause of total non-ho-cho. Then the third serious technique will have to apply to yourself.
It’s hard to say no to yourself
"We are what we eat" - these words are more often associated with losing weight than with mood. But eating habits do not only affect waist girth. The logical chain is viewed: a late, hearty dinner — a bad dream — a hard morning — a bad mood. A cup of coffee at night does not cause insomnia for everyone. Some even bounce, they say, I drink coffee and always fall asleep. But the brain does not sink into the deep phases of sleep, which also leads to lack of sleep, and then everything is in order.
What to do? Go on a diet, go on a healthy lifestyle? In no case. These words themselves can cause a powerful internal protest. Want to eat? Drink water. The objection that it is impossible to pour a glass of water in itself is not accepted. Because we drink cola, beer or tea not in glasses, but in bottles. Arithmetic is quite simple: water takes up volume, junk food breaks less, and an extra trip to the toilet can be regarded as an additional warm-up.
Fy-oh-uh, they coped with the unpleasant. How to want to live happily? We turn to the pleasant techniques.
Find a hobby for one master class
Standard advice is: "remember what you liked to do as a child and turn this activity into a hobby." And if everything that he did in childhood is no longer inspiring? If you once loved to paint on the wallpaper, so now run for the easel, paint, take painting lessons, read books? All this is costly in money and in time.
What to do? To accept the fact that my hobby is to flip through the tape on the Internet? Nothing like this. During one master class it is quite possible to master something new and useful. For example, love to cook - no need to run to write a book. Sign up for a master class on cooking French macaroon cookies. Or on the steak roast lesson. Did you like the program about interior design? Register in design school and make a rearrangement in your home.
Do you feel that the nehuchuha is already losing strength? Finally, parting with it will help the second technique of joy.
Come up with your own personal way of meditation
Does the mention of meditation techniques evoke the image of a skinny grandfather in the lotus position? Or watch the seat without moving to the song "ommmmm"? Yes, such practices can only be done by advanced yogis. During a time when we are constantly in a hurry, we are nervous and we break, meditation becomes a way to slow down. It is important to stop throwing thoughts. Then in a clear head (as in water) joyful memories, pleasant thoughts, new ideas will start to emerge.
What to do? Buy literature and go to Goa? In no case. Without lengthy preparation it is better not to touch on the religious aspects of the practice. You can even meditate while washing dishes. Or on the treadmill. Or on the way to work. Every minute, when your hands are busy and your head is free, you should use it as a way to just talk to yourself. But it is worth doing it wisely. It is not customary to complain about life to myself, but to dream on the topic: "how do I want to live, if I become the main character of the film? Romantic, adventure, fantastic, it doesn't matter."
What else can you please yourself right now?
Buy a new dress
Do you think this advice is only "for girls"? In here and there. No wonder they say: a woman is a mirror of a man. If she is happy - happy all around. A story flashed on the net recently: a three-year-old child, he saw his mother in a dress and was surprised: "Mom, are you a girl too?" I was surprised because I used to see her only in jeans and sports trousers.
What to do? Go and buy yourself. Or give your favorite money, but with one condition: the dress should not be practical, comfortable or comfortable. It should be light, colorful, flying and joyful. And then arrange a "month without pants" and wear only dresses: at work, at home, on a shopping trip.
Well, try? After all, this is a completely uncomplicated way to make your UNKNOWN SAD sad and look for a new comrade in sorrow. In the meantime, we recall the rules:
- We say "NO": to toxic people, eternal whiners, permanent advisers, lack of sleep and overeating.
- We say "YES": hobbies, the results of which are visible already today, meditations in minutes of busy hands and feet, light dresses and little joys.
If you feel that the strength is not enough for anything, urgently reward yourself with something joyful. First, tell yourself: "I want to live brightly" and start with simple techniques. A quick result will help to save up strength for a new struggle. And how is your NOTHUCHUHA?
