If it becomes sad, cats scrape the soul, failures literally pursue, then it's time to start keeping a thank-you diary. The reason to record a couple dozen "thanks" can be a personal triumph. This is a great way to stay on the wave of luck and build on success.
What is a thank-you diary?
Thanksgiving diary is one of the types of personal diary in which a person writes, for which he feels a sense of gratitude. This is a psychological tool that helps correct self-esteem, perception of the world. Such a diary is a kind of receiver that helps to set your life on the right positive wave.
Why do you need a thank-you diary?
It is especially useful to keep a diary of gratitude during depression and bad mood. At these moments, a person needs a belief in good and optimism, it is important for him to see that in every day there is something positive. Here are a few more reasons to start a thank you diary:
- From the grumbler to turn into an admirer. As a rule, it is easier for people to criticize others than to see that they do something pleasant for them. But as soon as you begin to notice that a colleague is holding the elevator door, and mom makes breakfast every morning, the neighbor cares for the common front garden, although they are not obliged to do this, their attitude to the people around them changes.
- Learn to enjoy the little things. Internal discomfort is leaving; instead, an understanding comes that the world owes nothing to man, but he gives so much. This allows people to see that they have much more than they think, and most importantly, this is enough for happiness.
- Become an optimist. Once a person begins to complain about life, it is very difficult for him to stop. His perspective changes, and he continues to notice only the bad, losing sight of the good. Diary of gratitude allows you to "migrate." In order to have something to write in it, at first you will have to work hard and look for good things in your environment. Gradually, the person will automatically notice such things.
- Move towards your goals and change your life.. And what if the good in life is catastrophically low and you have to change the situation to find it? It may not be possible right away, but when a person sees that he has something to thank for, he will want to find other reasons for this.
- Increase self-esteem and forgive offenders. One way to thank is to say “thank you” to yourself for certain traits of character or appearance, you can thank the offenders or difficult situations in life that led to the tempering of character.
This is only a small part of what helps to change the thanks diary.
How to keep a diary of gratitude?
Write by hand
Unlike a personal diary, which can be kept in any way, it is still better to write a thank-you diary by hand. This will be fairly easy, as the entries in it are brief. This will help develop a certain reflex, because most people rarely use pen and paper. Over time, as soon as a person picks up a pen, his brain will instinctively scroll, for which he is grateful.
First 100 thanks
It is recommended to take a notebook or notebook and first write at least 100 "thanks" in it. Coverage can be very large, size to life. It is worth starting with the first thing that comes to mind, and when the “crisis of thought” comes, it is necessary to retire in the memories a few years ago. Perhaps the person will be grateful for the bike, presented by parents for a decade, for the good grade given by the teacher in the certificate, although it was undeserved.
Thanksgiving limit
You need to set yourself a minimum, for which you need to thank every day. Let it be, for example, 10 "thanks" per day. It does not matter how global they are, as long as the minimum is observed. There is no maximum, the more thanks there will be the better.
Every day is a reason to say "thank you"
You need to fill in the diary every day, this is important. They say that the habit is developed in 21 days. Regular thanks are recommended for at least 3 months. Thanksgiving instinct is very useful for the normalization of self-esteem, good mood, optimism. Even if the phrases “thanks for the donor kidney” and “I am grateful that I woke up in a good mood today,” both records deserve attention. Happiness in the little things.
Thanks for the future
It is necessary to give thanks not only for what already is and is happening in life, but also for what you want. It works the same way as with the fulfillment of desires, which need to be described in real time. Gratitude may sound like this: "I am grateful that my work brings me pleasure" (even if the work is terrible), "thanks for bringing me closer every day to a meeting with my beloved man" (for single girls who dream of meeting an elect).
You can thank anyone
A person can say “thank you” to people (friends, parents, relatives, random passersby), destiny (the Universe, God), and myself. To thank yourself is generally very useful, it helps in raising self-esteem, understanding that a person can much more than he thinks. Gratitude can be impersonal, for example, "thanks for my good health."
Thank for the failures and shortcomings
The presence of human deficiencies is also a reason for gratitude. You can safely take an example from the famous actress Tilda Swinton, who in one of her interviews stated: “I was lucky that I am not beautiful! All attractive friends and friends always depend on their appearance, she dictates how to behave and live. I am free from this, I don't have to match anything. " Having seen those extra pounds, she can thank them for encouraging her to go to the gym, now she has a new and useful hobby. Failing the interview, the guy can thank the failed employers that they showed him how to grow.
Reread diary
A person makes all entries in his diary, first of all, for himself, to see how much good and positive things in his life are. To remember this, you need to periodically re-read the diary.
You should not dwell on the diary of thanks, the words recorded in it can be spoken directly to the addressee. Mom, friends, colleagues, even passers-by who have done something good, will be pleased to hear "thank you" and get a sincere smile. This is a chain of good that will make the world a little better.
